So, tomorrow is my 1 week, which I’m thrilled about, however, it is also my first social event since I chose to stop drinking! Uncanny timing I know! 
Any tips and tricks to stay on track? I feel like if I can survive tomorrow, it’s my fist major hurdle overcome!! 
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Always have your own NA drink in hand so no one has to offer or push drinks in you.
Escape plan.
Or just don’t go if you need to not go.
And as @littlemisschatterbox
Told me. You always got us in your pocket.
Use us.
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In the beginning I skipped any function with alcohol. Honestly, I dont even remember what I missed, I remember all 1250+ days I have sober.
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That’s a good idea to have a drink in hand.
Not going not really an option as it’s a birthday party my daughter is attending, but know the adults will all be having a few drinks too. Will definitely be keeping you all in my pocket just incase!! 
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Last night I went to my first social event that involved people drinking. I had tonic water with a lime with dinner and plain bottled water at the play. I went to bed sober and woke up refreshed. Stay strong!
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If it’s people you don’t know, it will likely be easier to abstain. Not sure how old the kids are, but one thing I’ve done in the same situation is ask if I can go run an errand (in my case the kids were about 9yrs old so they didn’t need parental supervision), then I dipped out for a couple hours and came back at the end.
Where there is a will, there is a way! Just gotta get creative and break the norm.
And remember, it’s OK not to drink!
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Honestly? My tip is don’t go. It’s too soon and missing a social event is not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. Fake a stomach bug.
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I have thought about not going, but I can’t let my little girl down, not again. Instead, I’m going to go, keep strong and use the opportunity to confide in my couple of friends that will be there WHY I’m not having a drink. That will be a step in itself for me and I know they will back me 100% I mean……it’s a kids party it can’t be that wild surely?! 
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You seem to have a clear idea of what you want which is to stay sober. And you have a plan along with that. Stick to it. And have us as a back up in your pocket as advised before. I belief in you. It will be an interesting and educational experience for you. And I hope some fun too. Keep us posted Kat.
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My mindset feels different this time compared to times I’ve stopped before. I will definitely keep you all updated when Iv got back home for sure! I also kind of feel motivated to not let you guys down, I’m damned if I’m coming back here and posting a message saying I had a drink. No way.
Giving up was always going to be difficult with plenty of challenges along the way….the first one has to come some time! 
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Do you not know the parents of the kids party well enough to just drop your child off? Say you have a really bad headache or something. I usually preferred adults dropping their kids off for my sons parties. Less people to entertain
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I do know her yeah she’s a good friend of mine, that’s why I’ll be staying at least an hour to help her out as she doesn’t have much help with all the kids. I’m thinking of helping for an hour, then scooting off for the last hour. Got a few options in my head
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That’s good. We are very venerable those first weeks/months. Good to be honest with them also, and if they are true friends they will not offer you any booze, ect
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That’s why I’m going to tell my 2 girlfriends coz I know they’ll support me 110% we’re partial to our coffee dates so they will no doubt scoop me up and keep me going
That’s good! Most of my friends aren’t like that. I come from an old punk rock group of friends where it isn’t the cool thing to be sober, or they wouldn’t care to hide drug usage, so I lost a lot of friends over the years.
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That’s really tough, and hard to break away when you’re surrounded from every angle with the things you’re trying to rid in your life. Really hope you’ve got some good people around you now
Yes, I do. That was years back and most of them are now dead or in jail. Was a rough lifestyle I lived years ago. Glad I made it out
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Me too, you’re life is worth so much more