So I just found out when I was at the bar on Saturday. I was with someone and got them drunk and they left and drove and got a dui and they got their car impounded. They want me to pay them 600 bucks to get their car out from the impound…I feel bad because I asked if they wanted to have a drink or two and I didn’t even know them and they got in trouble with court and everything. I wanna help but I don’t have the money because I was an idiot and spend most of my money that night. I feel terrible like it was my fault. Like it I didn’t ask her if she wanted to have a drink or two she wouldn’t of gotten arrested… what do I do
I think its not you fault @Ghostlychillz it was their choice to make to drive … i really dont know what to say buddy
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Not your fault. Whoever it was needs to own up to their own actions. Sounds like you are a really nice person and people are taking advantage of your kindness. Tell them to get lost in a nice way and find people who are going to be true friends and help you get sober. You’re worth it 
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I just feel like shit because she wasent at the bar to begin with. I was on a social app and I saw that she was prostituting herself out for money which made me feel really bad because I don’t think anyone should have to do that. I told her if she wanted to come to the bar I was at I would give her 200 bucks just so she didn’t have to prostitute herself… I gave her that plus 20 bucks for her gas and this shit happened. Idk can u see why I feel like it’s my fsult. I tried to help out a girl so she didn’t have to do anything illegal and it backfired and got her arrested because I got her a drink or two…
I might sound mean but this girl has issues! Stay away , even run away!! Don’t feel you have to help her. She needs to figure stuff out herself. I promise you, she is just using you. Are you even sure she really got a DUI? Run man! Please block her for your own sake.
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She showed me the paperwork and everything 
she has my number
I know you don’t know me but I’ll I can say you don’t owe her anything. She sounds like a real jerk.
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@Ghostlychillz i can understand how you think, but its something fishy about that woman … be carefull .im like you always try to help but it can backfire… what does your gut say … ? Please be careful
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I think I’m just going to tell her I don’t have the money and that I was an idiot and didn’t have that kind of money to be spending in the first place. Ur right I should not help her. She obviously has issues as well. Besides I need to focus on myself. I was nice enough to even give her money in the first place
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Good descission! Send it all what you wrote here . Hope for good outcome. If she still be push after this you know she might wanted something
I told her. She hasn’t responded back yet but hopefully she understands.
Did you make her go to the bar? Did you force her to drink? Did you make her get in the car and drive? If you answers no to all of this then it is most defiantly not your fault, I’ve gotten a dui in my party days (I’m not here for drinking) and I’ve gotten my car impounded, and I only had to pay like 175$ max, that sounds very steep to me…anyway it’s not your fault what is she going to do honestly, you met her once, have you ever Sen her before? Block her and go on your way most likely you will never see her again, that is most defiantly her problem and only her problem
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I didn’t make her do anything. I simply offered to give her 200 bucks if she wanted to come get it. Then I offered to buy her a drink. Then she said she had to leave after pretty much running up my tab at the bar… and damn so u think it’s not really 600 bucks to get a car out of the impound
She asked if she could get at least a 100 bucks from me. I’m already fucked in general for Christmas
This is not your fault. Sure, you were partying with her and encouraging her to drink, but she’s the one that did. She needs to own her actions instead of pushing it onto you.
For example, if you went out and relapsed because your friend encouraged you to drink, it would be on you.
Anyway, don’t let her guilt trip you. I’m not even sure the DUI is real. She might just be trying to get money from you.
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I don’t know, I got arrested in Arizona, and I was under the limit so I didn’t go to jail, but I was held in a temp cell and they impounded my car and ND thats what I was ordered to pay, could be different in different states, but she sounds like a scumbag that’s trying to get you, she took ur money, and is probibly already back out on the street today, she’s a prostitute, can’t save these hoes man, I applaud you for trying to do a good thing, but sometimes people need to figure out their own rock bottom, and clearly that girl is not there yet, not your problem though, I say run while you can, thats her citation, not yours, your name isn’t on it, if she doesn’t pay it you don’t get in trouble…was all her decisions, don’t pay anything.
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Sorry for all the wrong words and typos, my phone is a special case when trying to figure out my fast typing, lol, hope it made sense though!
Toxic person who will keep taking advantage. Whether the dui is true or not doesn’t matter. Will try to get you to pay for everything and do everything and take the blame. Narcissist. Toxic. Move on.
Edited to add: I have that with one too many in my life.
I really think you should tell her to leave u alone, she is after your money and your kindness. Tell her to stop.or just stop respond to her …
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I found out she was on felony probation too. I think I’m just going to block her number.
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