Hello. This is Rémi from Turkey looking for some opinion maybe… As of today I am doing well on my recovery with 118 days, and trying to attend meetings on a daily basis to maintain my focus…
This is not a recovery related issue actually.
I got some old friends that are doing some trade business right now and they constantly call me. Even though they are blocked, I can see the blocked calls on my phone … The thing is they were my close friends back in the day and for two straight years none of them gave me a call nor just sent a message to see how I was doing…! Now they do trade and need someone who speaks Russian and they call me because of this. I dont feel anything good for “friends” who just call when they need something from you.
Just wanted to share this. Thanks for reading
If they are calling only for their benefit, then they are not really calling you… they are calling for a skill you have that they need the benefit of and don’t really want to pay for.
Life is full of “friends” who are more acquaintance of circumstance than true friends. If they don’t fit into your life and plans for yourself then leave them behind. You don’t actually owe them anything.
I’m not going to say what you should do it’s your own choice but my own personal experience of working my program has taught me to do some things I don’t want to do, stop being selfish and don’t do things expecting something in return. I try not to let other people’s actions dictate my own actions and the person I want to be. I feel good giving to people for a change as I spent my whole life only thinking of myself and taking from every person I met and every situation I was in. If it didn’t benefit me then I didn’t do it.
Now I don’t think of ME all the time I’ve not only changed my life but also played a part in making other people’s days a little bit better. THIS IS JUST MY OPINION NOT A CRITICISM OF YOU.
Congratulations on 118 days sober! That is awesome. If people only call you when they need something, especially no calls for two years, they most likely aren’t your friends.
Just my opinion. Healthy relationships work both ways. In my recovery I need healthy relationships. They don’t have to give a lot, but they can’t just take….
I agree with everyone here! Dump them! Do not gift them your Russian tongue! 118 days is amazing. You can now count your progress and growth in days and also in your reaction to these blocked numbers creeping into your phone- you are past this. You feel in your guts that you want no part of it. So, block away and feel awesome that this stuff doesn’t drag you down!
thank you 
take care