Gambling - keep relapsing

Somehow managed not sitting on blackjack table and survived the last day scare of first week f being clean. Though I did go to the oline live casino watched the game and open the deposit section but returned back from there for good :blush:. Feeling good

Hello there Iā€™m on here for drinking but I can understand gambling addiction as my dad is a gambler and thatā€™s why my parents split up eventually. I can see why itā€™s do hard to stop I donā€™t think thereā€™s enough support out there for it and the governmentā€™s make so much money out of it they promote it everywhere. I donā€™t know if this may help but my dad is in much more control of it now he limits his money doesnā€™t take his cash card to the bookies and on perpous locks himself out of gaming accounts by entering wrong password all the time. And I donā€™t know if ur from UK but thereā€™s a talk show host here that was a huge gambler and he talks openly about it and he only had a bet on a sat and does the same limitā€™s his money. If u want to go cold turkey and that works for u then thatā€™s brilliant and I wish u all the goodness I can for u itā€™s a hard thing to beat and takes alot of resilience like all addiction It takes hard work xx

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@Lig you are right I lost the first battle after first week and lost Eur 200 feeling so frustrated and irritated ā€¦ beyond explanation. Now next step I gave ally cards to my wife and only one I had is for some mandatory stuff but I have still didnā€™t tell her about my addiction. I will not make promise but if I do it next time, I will tell her about my addiction and I am also going on vacation to keep myself away from this addiction. Man this is so hard to break and I know itā€™s not gonna be easy journey. God give me strength, I need it.

There doesnā€™t seem to be many of us on this site that are gamblers most seem to be drinkers but an addiction is an addiction no matter what it is, we all need help & support donā€™t we? Iā€™m am a online gambler only, never been in a proper casino apart from Vegas when I was on my hols, that was years ago & long before i had a gambling addiction. I think online can be worst some times because it doesnā€™t feel like real money, you keep depositing & depositing until you get that ā€œdeposit failedā€. Thatā€™s when you check you bank account & come to that sudden realisation that youā€™ve just gambled everything away. Literally ALL your money is gone! Iā€™m fed up with this life and today is my first day when I say NO MORE to gamblingā€¦

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You and me both. I started on this site hoping i can overcome my addiction of pokie machine i quit for a bit then when im short of money i tend to go back thinking i can win some money but i just dig my hole deeper. My job is not that easy i come home tired and yet there are times when my weekly wages disappears within the hour of gambling so i too say NO MORE i was hoping coming on this site will motivate me to be strong and change for the better

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Hi have been off this for sometime. I managed to stop gambling for 5 months from February to July. I was applying for a mortgage and needed clean bank statements so this helped. I did have a few small bets directly at the bookies but very minimal to what I used too. However since having the mortgage accepted and getting a house, I have slipped back into old habits and have lost a big chunk of my salary the past few months. I am rather frustrated in myself, I could have done alot of nice things for my wife or given to a better cause. Addiction is something I underestimated in my younger years but experiencing this has made me understand the difficult battles addicts have to go through. A reason why I relapsed so badly was due to achieving a long term goal in a house, but not setting any follow up goalsā€¦ Which is what Iā€™m looking to do now. As a addict I need to take responsibility again. I have pin pointed I have become a problem gambler, I use gambling as a tool to get a small respite from problems I face in life. Day 1 starts tomorrow for me again, and I will check in every time the urge comes. I completely forgot about this forum until today, it does act as a great help. :slight_smile:

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@Martinp337 itā€™s so easy for it to creep back up on you, I thought I had it under control. Hadnā€™t gambled for 100 days then done the odd Ā£10 here & there online, in my head I thought if I kept to these small amounts Iā€™d be ok. Soon I started to convince myself Iā€™m not going to win anything win low deposits of Ā£10 so I upped them to Ā£30, losing money & like ever gambler wanting to win back my loses before I knew it I was losing hundreds, which then turned into thousands again! Iā€™m now 64 days gamble freeā€¦

Good for you recognising the gambling has become a problem for you again. Youā€™ve done 5 months before, make this time gamble free for life. Take one day at a time, youā€™ve got thisā€¦ Good luck x

@finley This is the problem with us gamblers we always think we can win back what we have lost & NEVER DO! I love this app & look at it every day watching the days build up, in a weird way I think thatā€™s what is keeping me on track. Iā€™m a stubborn bitch a times & donā€™t want to loose my numbers, Iā€™m on day 64. Iā€™m done the same when I gave up smoking Iā€™m on day 1401 :joy: Its the numbers that stop me having a cigarette! At the moment Iā€™m putting the same tactic to the gamblingā€¦ Itā€™s finding what works? x

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27 days, today is payday ā€¦ Will i break?

My husband was a gambling addict for 30 plus years. You can stop, I promise. He stopped. It was hard, but it was either him getting his shit together or we werenā€™t going to get married. So he did it. It was hard but he did it. It definitely is doable. I have no tips on how to help unfortunately because he really just did it on his own, but just throwing some hope out there that it can be donešŸ˜Š

Keep breaking at danger levels now

Sorry you are still struggling so hard with your addiction. Have you tried meetings? Something new might help you move forward.

Registered with GamCare it blocks all UK sites, which helps minimise the risk.

That sounds like a step in the right direction pal, you have been fighting this for a couple of years now, if you stumble again then I would suggest that you go to a gamblers anonymous meeting or two.
When you fancy a bet post here first, never crave alone :+1::slightly_smiling_face:

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If you use your phone to gamble online try getting a flip phone that doesnt give u easy access. Put your money in an account that wont be easily accessable like someone elses name or a savings account. You can only transfer 3-4 times a month before your denied in a savings account til the next month.

That would also mean giving up Sober Time. :confounded: