I’d be flattered too but he sounds like a pro in lovin the ladies, lol.
I can see if you were in a different mindset and in your 30s, it’s totally different now, for me anyway.
I think you’re smart to step back, he probably never loses, lol
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There’s a lot of mix messages coming from him. He doesn’t want a relationship but everything he does want screams relationship. I can’t wait to hear how this all pans out.
I literally spit out my water reading this. 
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Exciting stuff about the new fella! What is it about some men and the word relationship? They want all the things about the relationship, but not a relationship itself? I think some men have been socialised into thinking they must not want a relationship or they aren’t manly, sowing their seeds, etc, but actually like many of us they do want a partner.
As for the photos of your ex’ s family, remember the things people put online are specially selected, filtered, excerpts of a life. There is probably plenty not so perfect stuff going on that you don’t know. As you are doing, focus on your life and your relationship with your daughter. If she knows she is loved by you, which she does, that is enough.
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Ladies, right!!!???
Oh, and I think I forgot to say that he said we would be EXCLUSIVE, spend time together when we can, go on trips, be best friends, and of course, the geriatric 50 shades of Grey hahaaa
Lisa, glad you liked that. I thought it was pretty funny. It’s funny because it’s true 
Anyway, so… what does he think a relationship is? The above sounds like it to me. Whatever. I ain’t got time for this shit. He sure is good for the ego though. One day at a time. Thank god I’m not wrapped up in it and my head is on straight. He’s effing hot though 
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Welcome to my Ted Talk. Today we’ll be discussing what put a bee in Beth’s bonnet today.
Rock Bottom
What is rock bottom? Rock bottom is death boys and girls. We are always just one drink away from it. ~TS Beth
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So now for my Italian friend. I just can’t with this dude, but, he is so incredibly determined to work together that he talked to his partner and they agreed that they will exclusively refer me for all CRE brokerage, analysis, consulting, portfolio management, and cost segregation studies. This is huge for me. It will really speed up the time it takes me to grow the non-brokerage side of my business.
Aside from that, he is a hot mess and I’m not trying to do a friends with benefits situation with someone who has made it crystal clear that he is not, and likely will not ever be open to a relationship. And it’s not like that’s what I even want. I like my life exactly the way it is. If something doesn’t make me feel good, then I’m not here for it.
I told him we can be friends only. I was completely transparent with him that any feelings I may have had before we saw each other Wednesday, have completely dissipated. Right now I could very easily handle that situation because I don’t have any feelings for him. I don’t know the new Beth very well, so all I have to go off of is my history. History tells me that I would end up catching feelings. However, on the other side of that, once I lose respect for someone, it’s impossible for me to keep or develop feelings. I have lost respect for him and see him in a very different light now. However, with that also comes a loss of attraction. I look at him like a little bitch now (sorry, but it is what it is).
It would be stupid of me to blow him off entirely, because teaming up professionally is going to be monumental for both our businesses. Well, he has a few and I can work with that too.
The thing that I can’t move past and refuse to adhere to, because I don’t fucking work for you, you can’t control me or what I say and do, is agree to be “discrete” about our relationship. Douche! I immediately told him how fucked up that is. He said he’s afraid of his partner getting upset with him because I am a client. I will also agree that it could possibly create a conflict of interest with his other clients as they work with some other CRE firms. Nobody puts baby in a corner
He wants to spend every Thursday together. Working the first half and then doing fun stuff the second half. I did ask him what he considers a relationship, because he’s so contradictory in his words as well as his actions. I informed him the the mixed messages are insane. He came on so strong, then was like I don’t want a relationship, I want us to be exclusive, but not in a relationship, I’m finding myself getting completely obsessed with you, but I don’t want a relationship, you are the most beautiful and impressive woman I have ever met. You are so unique, good, kind, and completely different from anyone I know. I want you in my life forever, but I don’t want a relationship. Dude needs therapy, so I gave him the name of the place I go. I’m not a total dick, he asked for it lol.
I told him when he left the other day that I was disappointed and frustrated. Of course he’s all sensitive and that really bothered him. Oh well, don’t be a social fucktard.
I will give him props for the fact that he respects my decision to be friends, just so long as I’m in his life forever and ever 
Y’all… you can make this shit up.
THANK GOD I’M SOBER!!!
If I were still drinking, this whole situation would be a gigantic mess. I would have slept with him the other day. I would also 100% end up getting hurt. Old Beth would have said, even though he made it crystal clear that he may never want a relationship, “well, he’ll fall in love with me and change his mind”.
Oh and I also told him he needs to stop talking about the not wanting a relationship. He’s made it crystal, crystal, crystal, fucking clear that he doesn’t, so he can shut up about it. I heard it, I acknowledge it, I accept it, didn’t ask for a relationship either, so kindly shut the fuck up about it because it’s getting insulting.
Ohhhhh and ETA: changed his contact in my phone (blocked name because he’s somewhat well known 
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I love sober Beth! Look at you saying all the right stuff and not jumping into bed with him. You go girl!! Sounds like he can be the catalyst to that side of your business you’re looking to grow. Now if he can just shut up, keep his hands to himself and treat you like a business partner things can move forward.
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Exactly! He said it would be hard to keep his hands to himself, but no worries, I’ll help him
I will say, he is incredible for the old ego. I’ve never had someone make me feel so beautiful before. The blind sucker thinks I’m the most beautiful and sexy thing in the world 
This will sound funny, I’m not my type lol. I’m not a fan of blondes. I find darker people to be the most beautiful on earth. So it always throws me off when people say I’m beautiful, because I don’t see it. Not because I’m insecure, I’m just not my type. Make sense? I don’t think I’m ugly or anything, just not beautiful.
So I’m finally starting to understand that just because I’m not my type, doesn’t mean that I’m not someone else’s type. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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He’s very good at what he’s always done, and thanks for the ego boost but no thanks, lol
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I’m the opposite. I’m a fan of blondes. I can see what he sees in you. You are beautiful!! Loving the way you look is a work in progress. We all have that mountain to climb and honestly some of us never reach the top and that’s ok too. In the meantime, those compliments will help the ego. 
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The red flag is my favorite part on this whole thread. 
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Red flags are hard to resist!
Best relationship advise I ever got was you can have anything you want, but you get everything that comes with it. It disqualifies 99.9% of my potential dating options in less than five minutes.
The remaining .01% are out of my league. Good thing I’m happy single!
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Maybe his ego is hurt u aren’t begging him to change his mind about getting into a relationship?
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I could not be less single, but this quote is helpful for me too.
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Same, I love being single. I told him that too. Yet for some reason he keeps bringing up the relationship thing. I haven’t said a word about it since he said he wasn’t looking for that. I just said, ok so we will be just friends as I’m not sure I trust myself to not catch feels being a fuck buddy.
It’s going to take someone very special to be allowed into my happy little bubble. Any feelings or attraction I had for him disappeared on that first day we spent together. You can say you won’t fall for me all you want, but history proves otherwise. So if he was playing games he just fucked himself completely because my little brain has already flipped the off switch. When I’m dine, I’m done. I don’t change my mind.
That sounded conceited I’m just a really nice person and I’m extremely good to people. They fall in love with it until they start taking advantage of it, expect it, and then resent it. I ain’t got time for that. The old me would have said “challenge accepted” and then wasted years in a dead end relationship.
I don’t know what the new me would do, but it’s not getting tangled up in that bullshit. The business connection will be a powerful one. But it will need to end there.
One thing that has been weighing heavily on me is his request to keep this discrete. He said I didn’t tell ***** (his partner) about us, I trust you not to tell anyone as well. He can make it sound like a conflict of interest thing all he wants, but that will ALWAYS trigger me. He does not own me. My true loyalty is to his partner anyway. We’ve known each other for 15+ years. So if Mr. Italian Stallion were to hurt me, I could see his partner getting really pissed off. I’m just babbling now.
I’m so glad I’m sober and was able to do the right thing here. I would have ignored all the red flags and went into this thinking I could change him in the past. AND, I’m perfectly capable of doing a friends with benefits thing, I just don’t like how he approached it. In my eyes, he tricked me. I did not want to date AT ALL! Then he came along and I opened myself up to it only to get punched in the gut. He led me on, and I bit. It was very humiliating for me.
Men in Charlotte SUCK!!! It’s single for me 
I’ll hang out at home and dress up my dog Thanks for letting me babble 
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Omg… haha you’re my spirit person!!!
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Yes!!! Exactly. It does not suck for the ego a single bit. Especially now that he’ll probably try even harder. Like Flo @Misokatsu said, he’s probably but hurt in the ego that I didn’t push back on it and just said “ok, we’ll just be friends then”. It does feel nice to be complimented though 
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They sure do. I recently dyed my hair dark and loved it. But when my blonde roots come in I look like I’m balding lol
I love myself and how I look, but it’s sooooo weird. This will make me sound like a lunatic. I don’t want to be just pretty, I want to be the prettiest person in the world . How fucked yo is that? I guess I’m not too much like that anymore, but I used to be. However, as beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder, I am the most beautiful person in the world to someone out there. Just not me. Beth thinks Beth is pretty average. I always get told I look like Nicole Kidman, mannerisms and all. People find me elegant which I find hilarious. Ummmm come in by my apartment for a good old fashioned farting contest and tell me I’m elegant lol. Anyway, I don’t find Nicole Kidman attractive, she’s just not my type 
Now here’s who I would die to look ok like:
Kate Beckinsale
Natalie Portman
Mila Kunis
Megan Fox
Jennifer Connelly is a freaking goddess!!!
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Me tooo sooo funny. I love it.
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