I am new here, have given up drinking many times, but it has always been really easy to pick back up again. I have been sober for 5 days, drank 3 times in the last 3 weeks, which is about 18 days less than what I would have done any other time. Not perfect, but most certainly progress.
I turn over friends and those that I do keep around never really get passed close acquaintances. It’s always been really easy to drink because you don’t ever feel bad about flaking out on people you’ve kept at arms length. The only person aside from myself, that really knows the depths of my drinking is my husband, and he quit over a year ago.
This time around I have been giving people full disclosure to my issues. I have become closer to people by opening up to them about it and that’s what has made it easier. It’s not that I don’t have any place left to hide, it’s that I have better places to go now.
These last few weeks haven’t been perfect, but they are certainly progress. 
Welcome and congratulation @ashisalefty. Honesty makes you go long way. You support eachother you and your husband.that is awesome . Thats makes the bonding Even stronger i belive 
support is the Main thing No one can do it alone . Continue to stay in this path, be kind to your self. Welcome sobrierty !!
Congratulations, I feel every word that you stated as Iam going through the exact same struggles. I however was not fortunate to have the man I love stay with me. Does it mean that the love was never real if he couldn’t handle fighting for me. Im glad you have support from him. I have only been on this site for a few days but I have found it very empowering to know that Iam not alone. You can do this just be strong and do it for yourself… wow dont I need to practice what I preach. But really we can stand and unite together. It is definiltey one of the hardest struggles I have ever experienced in my life. Im here if you ever need to vent
Thanks! I am very fortunate to have the people I have in my life right now. I think that’s the crap part of the process- you find out who will stay and who won’t. Or who you should not be around, a making that choice yourself. But everything happens for a reason. Patience is key.
Congrats! I’m new here as well and can’t believe how good it feels just to have support and understanding from complete strangers. It’s liberating. It gives me strength. The last year I have felt like such a weak person. Purposeless, angry, anxious and… often drunk.
Hope to see more from you ladies on here! (Gents too)
Hi folks,
Firstly thank you for starting this thread - I’m sure it’s important for many of the community.
Lying has been a real issue for me and I have become a real pro at not owning up to my OCD which has caused real personal pain and family breakdown.
So I’ve relapsed like 6 times in the last 2 months but not told my accountability partner or my 2 grown up sons (who have been so loving and supportive through this depression and divorce).
I think I’ll do a confession here but I can’t face telling my accountability partner and my sons 
On a positive note I have been off the booze for 110 days now - it was often the reason for giving in to my OCD.
Thanks for reading this…
So here’s the confession:
I’ve been lying
I have acted out my OCD regularly these last weeks.
I have not been looking after myself
I have wasted so much time vegetating and glued to the my mobile (YT / news etc)
I’m sorry for all this and ashamed at my devious behaviour.
It’s decision time…
I have to reverse all the above and live the truth, recover my avatar name and get more healthy or this will end bad.
Happy Christmas and a better New Year to all!
Thanks for your honesty Tony. Throughout my drug addiction I became that skilled a liar that I works actually completely forget what the truth actualy was and convince myself that the lie was actualy the truth. I havn’t told a lie in around 220 days now and it feels good, it feels liberating so I hope to see you in the same position shortly. 
Just want to encourage you to tell your accountability partner what you’ve bravely shared here. Getting it out in the open is a great start.