Grumpy A-holes (quitting cigarettes/ nicotine products)

Big congrats lady! Loads of good vibes your way for your tests. All we can do is live our best life now. Hugs and love.

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Tonight I went outside for a cigarette with my husband and told myself it was my last one. I lit it, saying it was the last time I’ll do that, smoked it saying it’s the last time I’ll do that and put it out for the last time. I have a hard row to hoe ahead of me but you have to pick one for your last. I just had mine. Onward!

I’ve been smoking since I was 16ish and am now 43. I’ve been ashamed to be a smoker that whole time. It’s time.

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Thank you for the kind words and support :pray: :blush:

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It’s time! Huge congrats on deciding to quit Emilie! The past is the past. You’re an ex-smoker now. Never again. Smoking is stupid. Smoking kills. I smoked for 37 years myself. Can’t imagine myself with a smoke now. Again, never again. Best decision I ever took in my life. No joke. Success and hugs.
NOPE as in Not One Puff Ever
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Thanks Menno! Checking in tonight because as the night goes on I keep thinking “I’ll have one and just quit again tomorrow”.

Over those thoughts is the correct refrain “nothing changes if nothing changes”. If I give in tonight I can give in everyday for the rest of my life. I will re-read Allen Carr in the next few days but I am going to stay strong and choose NOPE!!

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Honesty is important so I’ll do that. I still have more work to do on this addiction. My failing tonight was my drive home from work. I have odd rules about smoking, because I continue to hide the habit. Next week I will swap cars with my husband so I drive the new car that we don’t smoke in. Re-set tonight but I have plans for success. I’m still figuring out what doesn’t work and what doesn’t work is me driving my beat up old car that I smoke in. Still sober but still battling cigarettes.

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Driving was maybe the strongest trigger to smoke for me too. Tried toothpicks? I still chew 'm at times. Seven years after quitting. Not much but some. Only thing left of that killer addiction. Never again. You can do this. Be super black and white. X

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I’m fine in the new car because I know I can’t smoke. In the old car which I’ve smoked in thousands of times that little voice tells me I should hold onto this secretive shameful habit.

I’ll put toothpicks in the old car and I’ll drive the new car next week to eliminate that excuse. This will be very satisfying once I get it.

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I kept going round in circles, quitting, starting again, round and round…
Some great advice I got was to start the quit again and keep going. If you smoke, quit again at earliest opportunity. After about 4 or 5 false starts I feel like I’m winning. Best wishes to you x

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Day 53 !
Day 170 sober. I was super tempted to do both today. I thought how great it would be to go out by myself and meet new people and have a laugh. I had to beat that devil off my shoulder so hard :facepunch:t2::facepunch:t2: But I’m still winning :1st_place_medal:

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Thank you. I had a few re-sets after I set my intention to quit drinking but I’m 9 months sober and feeling strong there. Sober me is a way better me. This feels harder. I need to silence that nasty little “just do it” addict voice once and for all and give up this last unhealthy habit.

I appreciate your advice and well done on your progress! With some willpower and inner work I’ll be chasing your numbers soon. Keep leading!

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Saw this repost from Quitnet pop up today. Never saw it before. I like it. Love.

My cat, the weather, my quit . . .
From Peter_is_in on 1/18/2011 1:26:26 AM

From my journey, 2005 . . .

One of our cats made me realize how limited his world is, limited in understanding how things really are.

It is very cold outside with snow blowing left and right and our cat “Oddfellow” really can’t understand why it has to be that way.

He goes to the back door, we open it, and he’s ready to go out until he gets the cold blast in his face and then quickly moves back from the door. There he sits crying with a mournful meow . . . asking the question “where is the nice warm weather?” . . .

But he doesn’t give up . . . next he goes the front door . . . we open it, he’s ready to go out until he gets the cold blast in his face and then quickly moves back from the door. There he sits again crying with a mournful meow . . . asking the question “where is the nice warm weather?” . . .

But he still doesn’t give up! . . . next he goes to the patio door off the family room . . . we open it, he’s ready to go out until he gets the cold blast in his face and then quickly moves back from the door. There he sits once again crying with a mournful meow . . . asking the question “where is the nice warm weather?” . . .

Then he goes to at least 3 different windows to see if it looks any different in those worlds . . . lol . . . of course it doesn’t.

He doesn’t seem to comprehend that no matter which door or which window he goes to, it is cold outside . . . the weather is awful. Our house sits in the weather, like all the other houses around us. He just needs to accept that and endure the cold weather and wait for warmer weather . . . but he keeps hoping and each day he goes to the same doors and windows . . . that is a good thing, never give up hope Oddfellow.

In a way that is what the first days of my quit were like. I didn’t like the feeling around me and I was testing doors so to speak to see if there was a better place to be rather than sit in my storm of change. But no matter how I looked at it, I finally had to realize that it was just something I had to go through. . . And that soon the storms would be over and I would be sitting in the sun . . . which is where I am now . . .

So if your quit feels like you’re being dragged through nasty weather, take heart. You can do small things to make the weather more tolerable but in it all believe that your spring is just around the corner and the sun will shine . . .

Peter

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I love this! Very well said Menno.

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