Well I found out today my Husband who I’ve been with for 6 years, married to for almost 3, and dad of our 2 young kids (2 and 4 years old) has been having an affair for the last 6 weeks…. I want to drown myself in booze right now, have cried so hard it’s made me puke twice and about hyperventilate. I’m really questioning what went wrong, and why I wasn’t enough. I guess I just need some words of encouragement I’m only 8 days into this sobriety thing and then my life got flipped upside down.
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I’m so sorry Alexa.
That’s just horrible. I cannot imagine your hurt. How painful that must be. Congratulations on the 8 days. That’s some incredible sobriety work. Drinking will not change what happened. And drinking certainly will not help fix this situation. Can you find an AA meeting or an Al-Anon meeting? You could get some great support with some people irl.
Big hugs to you 
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I am so sorry to here this. Please remember, it is not your fault, he is the a**hole who cheated.
Do have a friend or family closeby who can be with you now? So you are not alone in this horrible time (I speak from experience). Just please don’t drown your emotions in booze, you will feel even worse. And kick the cheating b*%st%rd* out if you can!!
Sending you lots of strenght and hugs 
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I’m sorry Alexa and I understand the pain you are feeling right now. I just want you to know it’s not worth drinking over. I lived through this scenario also in early sobriety and got through it sober and so can you. Don’t give his bullshit behaviour that kind of power over your sobriety. I know the emotions are big and overwhelming right now but drinking will 100% make it worse and make this situation that much harder to deal with Going to a meeting or support of family or a friend at all great suggestions above. Keeping busy on here reading might help keep you on track too. Again, I’m so sorry you a facing this right now but please stay sober today.
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Alexa, I am so sorry. I too have been there, though I wasn’t sober at the time and I used it as an excuse to drown in alcohol. Which didn’t help with the feeling that I was the only reason everything had gone wrong.
I wasn’t, and you’re not, either.
Hang in there. We’re here for you.
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Hi Alexa. Me too. You aren’t alone in going through this kind of pain and wanting to drown it out, but it isn’t possible to numb this pain, and drinking will honestly make it worse. Stick around, read and post here, and i agree with reaching out to someone to keep you company so you aren’t feeling these feelings alone. You did not cause him to cheat. Do not go down that path okay? He did this, not you. We’re here for you.
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