Have you become lonelier since quitting booze?

One big part about socialising here in Sweden involves drinking alcohol. The weather can suck and many people are repressed. I’m from the Uk so I don’t need a drink to be outgoing btw… I have relapsed, trying again only on day four but I know I need to avoid those I associate with drink which makes me think giving up makes us lose friends along the way and that may be a reason I relapse… thoughts? Have you lost friends along the way in order to succeed at abstaining from alcohol?

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I wouldnt say I’ve lost friends but I just don’t hangout with them if they are drinking. If I don’t have a choice I order a hot tea or a Shirley temple. If they are your true friends they should help you and not encourage you to drink. Hope this helps you

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Oh yes, I’ve lost friends. But when drinking alcohol at a party / bar / dinner is more important for them than having a good time together sober, then I did not loose much :+1:

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Now sober I’m realizing I didn’t do much but drink. Especially winter months. I’m reading everyone’s hobby ideas for advice. There’s a lot hours in a day when you take out alcohol and hangovers! I’m 42 and have to go out and make new friends. Ugh. Not drinking has brought me great things but the social life took a hit so I relate to the lonely or boredom comments. Looking forward to the next chapter in my life though.
Thanks for the thread.

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Guess being an introvert is a blessing when it comes to being sober. I have my family and a few close friends, but am not a big socializer. I am quite content being by myself. When I am alone, I am recharging. When I am with people, I am discharging.

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Strangely, yes.

I love to be with people, but I double love to be home. This was one of a few reasons my drinking was way more solitary than social. Because of this, my social life (the very little I have) has not been affected by sobriety.

Strangely, though, my busy homelife with my wife and our four boys felt suddenly very confining and isolating. That lasted through much of my first year. (I am not claiming this is to be expected. I have no idea.)

I call it strange because, here I was, more available than ever! More able to interact and participate and live and love!

It passed, thank God. And I feel full to the brim with the people I do have.

Give this time. Do the next right thing. Invest in those you have.

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