I’m very new to the program go to a meeting every day. Spend a lot of time reading. My husband wants me to be sober but I feel like he resents me for spending time away. He isn’t a alcoholic so he can’t help me through this. I feel like he makes it worse sometimes. Anyone else feel like this?
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My ex fiancé had the same issue…it bothered me and she was happy I was sober but it was taking up a huge part of our young “fun” lives. I stopped going to meetings and I relapsed…and then we split up with a one year old daughter. Lesson is focus on yourself or everything else will crash and burn along with you. Good luck!
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You should have your husband read the section in the AA book to the family.
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Perhaps you two could find sober things to do together. And perhaps they could go to meetings with you to understand better.
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I agree with all the above. Meetings together and think of things you both would like to do that doesn’t include alcohol. Hopefully in time he will see that what your doing is benefiting both of you. 
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I have the exact situation. He doesn’t care for the meetings but wants me sober. Damned if we do, fanned if we don’t. My husband also isn’t an alcoholic.
My husband won’t attend meetings with me. I asked him to try the al anon meetings and he kinda just laughed it off and said no because all they are going to do is bitch about the spouses. I hope he comes around because I feel like I’m choosing being sober or my marriage and that’s not good so early in my sobriety.
We do things together, he doesn’t drink anymore either which is good and I’m thankful for that. But I feel like is jealousy of my time elsewhere and just not understanding is gona blow everything. He tries but he is also quick to judge. His dad is also an alcoholic so maybe it’s his own resentments. He is sick too I guess just in his way. Ty
I will try!! Conveniently in Tuesday’s big book meeting we read the family afterwards. So I have asked him to read it.
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