# Hi my name is Jonathan, it’s time for me to make a change
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675
**Category:** Your Story
**Created:** [February 27, 2025, 2:42am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675 "2025-02-27T02:42:52Z")
**Posts on this page:** 16
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### Author:  [@Jonathan23](https://talkingsober.com/u/Jonathan23)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 2:42am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/1 "2025-02-27T02:42:53Z")
I want to start off with an introduction. My name is Jonathan and I’m a Veteran coming off Active duty military service(Army) for 6 years. As I got out of the military I realized that I have an unhealthy addiction to alcohol and its effects. It’s normalize in the military to drink and have fun, but up to recent troubles with the law, I didn’t realize the Social, emotional, and financial impact this addiction was causing. I recently lost an amazing relationship with someone that I loved and she loved me, because I drank too much and portray disgusting behaviors that under a sober mind I wouldn’t do. After almost 4 days of dealing with homelessness, loss of my relationship and financial hardship that I feel like I woke up finally. Is it too late? Part of me believe so as I lost so much already, but part of me also believes that I can be better and get back to where I was and beyond. I am now 3 heading into 4 days sober and I hope joining a wonderful community inspires me to be who I want to be.
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### Author:  [@TrishK](https://talkingsober.com/u/TrishK)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 2:46am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/2 "2025-02-27T02:46:28Z")
It’s never too late and congrats for starting this journey! Thank you for your service, as well.
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### Author:  [@SolarEclipse](https://talkingsober.com/u/SolarEclipse)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 3:03am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/3 "2025-02-27T03:03:29Z")
Welcome to TS Jonathan. Great choice to stop drinking while you analyze your current life situation. There are some really knowledgeable and helpful people here. Read around these forums to get some ideas and tips on early sobriety, and check in daily with us!
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### Author:  [@LittleMissL](https://talkingsober.com/u/LittleMissL)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 3:03am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/4 "2025-02-27T03:03:53Z")
Welcome aboard @Jonathan23
Its not too late unless we’re 6ft under.
Read around, post, and remember you’re not alone 🫂
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### Author:  [@Matt](https://talkingsober.com/u/Matt)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 3:04am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/5 "2025-02-27T03:04:04Z")
Welcome Jonathan! There’s lots of stories of change here on Talking Sober and it sounds like you’re at the beginning of a positive change too. Welcome to the club!
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### Author:  [@TN2KY](https://talkingsober.com/u/TN2KY)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 4:24am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/6 "2025-02-27T04:24:24Z")
It’s never too late! The first step is admitting you have a problem and working to fix it. Congratulations 🎉
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### Author:  [@Blanka](https://talkingsober.com/u/Blanka)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 4:56am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/7 "2025-02-27T04:56:30Z")
Welcome Jonathan xxx yes, the time is now, and you can be who you want to be.
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### Author:  [@SarahBear](https://talkingsober.com/u/SarahBear)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 6:42am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/8 "2025-02-27T06:42:02Z")
4 days is a WONDERFUL start and you should be very proud of yourself 🎉 welcome!
I am new too so I wont pretend to give advice too much, but from the hours and hours ive spent on here and in AA Ive heard many things about “the gift of desperation” or something along those lines. Thats what happened to me, finally got desperate enough, and it sounds like you are there too my friend. So change is possible! 💚
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### Author:  [@Aurelia](https://talkingsober.com/u/Aurelia)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 6:47am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/9 "2025-02-27T06:47:05Z")
Morning Jonathon, fellow Vet here and I can relate to everything you say, especially about the drinking culture in the military. I’m only 33 days in myself, but this amazing group has loads of support. I find logging in here every day really helps. Four days in is a great start, you’ve got this! One day at a time, please keep us updated.
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### Author:  [@Dan531](https://talkingsober.com/u/Dan531)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 7:42am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/10 "2025-02-27T07:42:29Z")
You’re young and have a full life ahead of you. Congrats on 3 days of sobriety… it’s a huge win. Best wishes friend.
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### Author:  [@Merryshoes](https://talkingsober.com/u/Merryshoes)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 7:48am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/11 "2025-02-27T07:48:47Z")
Hallo, Jonathan! Welcome to the forum. You’re among friends here. Some other more tech-savvy people will probably link to certain topics that are incredibly helpful for early sobriety. Do read around, write when you’re comfortable doing so, don’t be shy and lean on us, especially if cravings show up. We’ve all been there. Count on us.
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### Author:  [@Tragicfarinelli](https://talkingsober.com/u/Tragicfarinelli)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 8:50am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/12 "2025-02-27T08:50:25Z")
Hey Jonathan, welcome. Your awareness got you here, and your hope and faith in yourself can prevail. Sobriety is the best option, and this place is a great resource for support. Read around and engage, we are here for you.
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### Author:  [@Cjp](https://talkingsober.com/u/Cjp)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 2:01pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/13 "2025-02-27T14:01:25Z")
Welcome @Jonathan23 its never too late. Maybe this is the wake up call you needed to make a change in your drinking habits. Thats good motivation.
This community, therapy, AA meetings, and working the 12 steps with a sponsor has helped support me thru my journey. You’ll find different people have different journeys on their road to recovery but a common theme is putting in the work.
The best piece of advice i received was dedicate as much time to recovery as you had your habit DAILY.
P.s. theres housing priority for veterans you just need to sign up with a local housing nonprofit. Theres also addiction support thru the va
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### Author:  [@Blondie1x](https://talkingsober.com/u/Blondie1x)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 2:32pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/14 "2025-02-27T14:32:07Z")
Welcome @Jonathan23 I’m so glad you found us. This place is amazing and the lights are always on. ☺ it’s lovely to meet you well done on 3 days! Look forward to seeing you around 🙏🏻
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### Author:  [@Bobbyw](https://talkingsober.com/u/Bobbyw)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 2:35pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/15 "2025-02-27T14:35:51Z")
Never too late! Today is the first day of the rest of your life! Keep coming back we are pulling for you!
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### Author:  [@anon10035965](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon10035965)
#### Post date: [February 27, 2025, 2:39pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/hi-my-name-is-jonathan-it-s-time-for-me-to-make-a-change/192675/16 "2025-02-27T14:39:32Z")
Welcome here, glad you’ve found us.
Hope this app does the same for you as it has done for me. Sober for more than 6 years now with the help of this app and the people in it.
Take you time to settle in a bit and be open minded to try the small and big changes in your life people advice you.
Keep what works and trow away the rest 😉
Recovery is not a “one size fits all” so find your own personal touch.
I would like to recomment a few threads:
> [@Your #1 tip for sobriety (over 2 years sober)](https://talkingsober.com/t/your-1-tip-for-sobriety-over-2-years-sober/155853):
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> How many days sober are you and what is your #1 tip for people if you could only give 1. I’ll go first. I have 1,832 days sober today and my best tip is work on your sobriety every single day. If that’s spending time here, going to meetings, reading sobriety literature, listening to sobriety podcasts whatever it is do it every day.
> [@What's YOUR plan?](https://talkingsober.com/t/whats-your-plan/177233):
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> If you hang out on Talking Sober long enough, you will undoubtedly see someone, usually one returning from a relapse, being asked, “What’s your plan (to staying sober)?”. While this question may often be rhetorical, it is an important one to answer for yourself. I feel that sobriety has 4 distinct phases that you should plan for. The Pre-quit phase (days/weeks leading up to quitting) The Withdrawal Phase (Day 1 to Day 30) The Post-Withdrawal Phase (Day 30 to Day 90) The Sustain/Recovery Phase…
All the best on your journey! 🙋♀️