Hi, new here, could do with some help

[Kabloo]

Hi,
I am not sure if this is the right place to post?
I can’t find a place that is for new people to say “hi”. So apologies if this is wrong.
I am someone who has relied on alcohol most of my adult life to manage stress, self medication I suppose.
I was ill a few years ago with covid in it’s first run and had a PE, and developed a heart arrhythmia.
I didn’t drink during that time, and am on blood thinners and was put on a beta blocker.
Last year I felt I had recovered a lot and if anything the beta blockers were maybe slowing me down. I did a year of a part time MA and put thoughts of my health to one side, which in a way was good… but with lack of focus and stress I started habitually drinking regularly again.
I finally got around to telling my GP practice about coming off the beta blockers and was sent for an ecg.
I fully expected it to be normal, I had convinced myself that any heart issues post covid were temporary and had settled.
But I was wrong. I still have the arrhythmia and the GP is sending me back to cardiology.
She’s told me I’m drinking too much (or I told her and she agreed)…, but I really struggle with not drinking. My husband won’t give up his habitual drinking either, though he drinks more moderately than I can… and that makes it especially tough.
I am not sure if this is the right place to post, or the kind of posts people make…
but am not sure where else to say all this.

[Dazercat]

Welcome Kabloo,
You’re doing great. This is a perfect spot to write and introduce yourself.

Arrhythmia
and a spouse that drinks

I had AFib and still have the second one. A wife that is in active alcoholism. But I’m sober. Because of this App. I did just what you did. I wrote in. Introduced myself. And I got lots of loving non judgmental help from others that know and understand what I’m going through.

Getting sober with a spouse that drinks is possible. Quite a few of us around here have been through that. And are doing it.

Here’s a good thread to check out if you like.

Frequently asked questions about sobriety for newcomers

Below is a list of common questions that newcomers to the community ask. This FAQ is a Wiki and is maintained by our long term community members. Anyone of Trust level 3 and higher can edit and contribute to this. Advice for the newcomer Advice for the Newcomer and Constant Relapser (Different Aspects of Recovery) Resources for our recovery (What was anyone’s experience in the first month of sobriety?) (Tips for getting and staying sober) (Good riddance to hangovers! (And other things I d…

Have a good read around. Join in when you’re comfortable. Ask us questions, as we were all new once and there’s always someone around to help.

[Dazercat]

And here’s another one.

Are you affected by a loved one who’s an addict?

Have you been affected by someone else’s drinking or them doing drugs? I have. We may be parents, children, spouses, partners, brothers, sisters, other family members, or friends, of alcoholics or drug addicts. No matter what our specific experience has been we share a common bond: we feel our lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. I have been wanting to start an Al-Anonish type topic here ever since I joined Sober Time and TS. This is not Al-Anon. I do highly recommend Al-Anon …

[tailee17]

Welcome Kabloo. As stated above this is a great place to be if you want to get sober and stay sober. Sounds like you have some good reasons to do so. Again read around find a connection and reach out when struggling. We are here to help!

[SinceIAwoke]

Welcome, Kabloo. Wanting to stay sober and not knowing how, that is something I spent a couple of decades doing. I can tell you that Talking Sober is one of the cornerstones of my daily sobriety, and it’s new folks like you that still give me a blast of hope. You are in a good safe place to stay sober, to help figure out how to grow your sobriety and deal with the ongoing currents of life far more successfully.

Here is a great topic for information on how other people here have gotten and stayed sober. Blessings on your house as you begin your journey.

Resources for our recovery

There are so many helpful resources available to us on our sober journeys. I wanted to share this list for those who are interested in non traditional resources. Please note: I created this thread with alcohol recovery in mind and it is U.S. based as well. As a straight white past middle age woman (SassyRocks), it is based on what resonated and helped me in my journey. Over time, I have added in resources for some other addictions (found at the end of this post), but it is heavy with resources …

[PositiveThoughts]

Welcome @Kabloo !
I hope you’ll give the daily check in thread a try for at least a few days.
I personally find it motivating and reassuring posting some daily thoughts, and reading what other people are up to. It may help avoid drinking knowing you’ve already had some reflection on successes related to sober living that day.

[Blondie1x]

Hi welcome @Kabloo ! It’s lovely to meet you, I’m so glad you found us. This place is awesome and full of lovely people that understand exactly what you are going through. I never, EVER thought that I would ever be free of the weight of my addiction, I too was a drinker. It felt impossible to stop. But I found this place. I come here every day and I’ve just passed 5 years!!! It is possible to break the cycle and live a good life free from the habitual booze cycle. I look forward to seeing you around!!

[SoberWalker]

Hi and welcome here,

You already got a lot of welcomes and info.
I wanna add a link to the daily check in thread @PositiveThoughts mentioned:

Checking in daily to maintain focus #70

206 days sober Got a great morning walk in before going to Sunday group. A friend hosted today and it was a good time together. I was encouraged by what was shared and being able to meet together. Unfortunately we heard that a new law coming in soon will keep us from meeting so that’s a bummer. I’m going to do some research to find out more info and see if anything can be done. I’ll start in on that deep dive tomorrow. After I went to my closest friends place to have coffee and talk. We always…

Check it out! It’s a very suportive thread wich helped me a lot as well.
Sober for 6 years with the help of this app and the people in it.

If you have any questions: just ask.
See you around

[Kabloo]

Thank you all so much for the welcome