Not sure what to categorize this. My employer Christmas party is coming up this Friday and to my joy/enlightenment, my employer has never been short on the area of over endulging. I work for a wonderful place don’t get me wrong, they just enjoy after hour parties and such a little too much…so, my mind has started to think how I’m going to handle this party Friday. I’m 93 days sober and it’s been a life changing 93 days. My gf will be there to support me (she’s been great during all of this), but I know it’s still going to be difficult. I am a type 1 diabetic as well, which pushed me to quit all together. I usually use this as a quick answer to why I chose sobriety with people but the pressure from some Co workers continues on…it’s not so much that I want to relapse, it’s the part of wanting to enjoy the party in the same way they do. By being in that “buzz” stage…not sure what I’m looking for here but just wanted to get my thoughts out!
My biggest question for myself is when would it be okay to drink again. I think of different situations where I might be out with a good friend and I’d have some drinks and be fine the next day and wouldn’t drink again until the next special event. I also consider how I would feel the next day and I honestly think I wouldn’t be happy. I feel for some people it’d be different though and maybe they can have one night of fun after being sober for so long. After being an alcoholic when is it okay to drink socially again, is it ever? Maybe it’s all a matter of what you truly think would be right in this situation no matter how much you don’t like the answer. @Ryang
I was little bit worried too but manage to do party just with water to drink, found also that it was fun sober but go home quite early, felt like a champion when drive home with my own car 
Well done on your sobriety- 90 plus days is a great achievement so why ruin it for one night. Your co workers will not be as concerned with your non drinking as much u think - I’m starting to think as non drinkers that we overthink that the drinkers care when in truth I don’t think they really do! (My own experience)- They should be too busy enjoying their night while you enjoy yours, it’s great that your gf will be there for support. Have a drink in hand like everyone else, soda water and fresh lime or diabetic safe non alcho beer. Fact that you started this yourney for health reasons and mayb other reasons means to hell with what otheres think or say - you can dance the night away and have fun knowing u don’t have to cringe at your desk on Monday not remembering ur actions (me last year after my work party) stay strong and aim to reach 100 plus days
I would say dont go. Stay safe in early sobriety. No wet places Xx
I have the same issue…13 days buzzless and our party is on Friday. Im going with my wifes support. We are drinking sparkling water with a lime. I feel it is fine to say I dont drink. People say, Im allergic to …or I dont eat meat or gluten. It has to be about my health. We will have a great time, make our appearance and leave a little early before everyone gets stupid. Another thought, I dont remember asking anyone why they weren’t drinking, dont think i will be asked unless I make a big deal about it. I hope and pray we all make it through this season… A little shakie but determined. I know you will make it, look how far you have come!!! Amazing!!
If your co-workers don’t accept it then you don’t even need to go to the party. I’m not going to my Christmas party…more reasons than this…Dont relapse because of this party. I don’t have many friends to begin with but the few I do have would never ask me to be a part of a party where alcohol is involved. Drink a gallon of green tea with honey! Enjoy the company of the party rather than the buzz.
Thank you all for the response and encouragement! Can’t agree more with all of your insights.
I have hit my one week. Hit a wall this evening and was really tired and its only Tuesday. Well, Friday is my husband’s christmas party. Lots of drinking is usually involved. Just trying to get my mind wrapped around the event so Im ready to be sober. My husband would like me to drink because Im fun but he would still support me if I didnt. Just want to keep feeling good in the mornings.
I think he thinks i will drink again. I dont know. I just know today and my desire to drink is not there and hoping it continues to Friday. He loves me and I know he will not pressure me. He will be disappointed but not mad and/or upset.
Yes. Agreed.