How did you recover?

#21

I went 2 years ago, for about 5 weeks but didn’t stay sober.
I started again in January, I don’t go regularly but I have got a couple of numbers and an idea for a sponsor.
I have to drive to the next town, the one I went to last year was in my local town and only happened once a week.and I didn’t feel comfortable there
There is no pressure on you to do anything.

#22

Hay mr g. Do u use the contact numbers u got ? Sounds silly but i always feel embarrassed to call people apart from my sponsor… i think i need to reach out a bit more as im closing myself off from the real world… i hope u do get a chance to work the steps as its changed my life and tge way i think so much x

#23

I certainly don’t share at many meetings I go to. Sometimes what I need the most is to sit and listen. Other times, where I feel as if my message can benefit someone, I share my experience strength and hope on the topic. Sometimes I go and bring up the topic so I can see what worked for others when they were facing a similar situation. Sometimes I go because I can get a chance to talk to my sponsor. The important thing for me is that I go. Without going to meetings I can’t work the rest of my program, I can’t be of service to others, and I definitely can’t find my serenity without meetings.

Worst thing that can happen at a meeting is that you go and stay sober for an hour. Even if you don’t like it, you definitely wont be drinking.

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#24

No never have. Not saying I haven’t needed to, because looking back, there probably have been times when I should have.
I think I will end up doing them.
This week is a bit of a journey for me. I’ve gone to London to meet Dan today. Getting a tat tomorrow and doing my wild walk Saturday. Next week we will see.

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#25

I love your posts they are always so to the point x

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#26

Use those numbers, girl! People give you their number because they WANT you to call. Often calling others helps them just as much as it helps me. :two_hearts::bird:

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#27

Thankyou so much for the advice… im gonna do it … its so good to here that. X

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#28

This is a side of it that I had not thought of before.

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#29

i put AA people in my phone with a prefix “FOB” (friend of Bill). When I am having an off day I got to that section of my contacts and text every single one and ask them how they are doing. it helps me get out of my head. And then when I want to talk to someone we already have a rapport and it feels loads easier.

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#30

LOLOL I do the same thing! I also put their home group or the meeting I met them at because I have so many first names and not a lot of last names. I don’t want to get people mixed up.

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#31

Yes I went to one in my home town in October last but like you I felt uncomfortable there. They were all nice people but it just didn’t feel right. But I don’t drive so not easy to go to another. Maybe I will try the local one again now I know I don’t have to get involved if I don’t feel like it thanks

#32

Thank you that really is very helpful I just assumed that after week one you had to give a testimony or something

#33

ABSOLUTELY.

Even when they are taking turns with readings you can jsut say “pass”. You won’t even need to say your name.

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#34

But is it not frowned upon because its like you’re not really doing what you’re there to do?

#35

@adeygaga49 im going to my first meeting tomorrow after speaking to a local member earlier today. Ive been feeling anxious about going but have just finished reading the new starter pack on the AA website which explains the etiquette for meetings; i feel less nervous doing so and after reading this thread

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#36

Nope. People are there to support you at whatever stage you are in your journey. Even for the person who had a beer while sitting in the parking lot. I’ve yet to see it but I hear stories all the time about someone who has come to a meeting still drunk. It is all good. You are there because you have a desire to stop drinking. That is the ONLY requirement for membership.

You are good no matter what you choose to do.

#37

Nope! By me there is an old timer who talks about how he didn’t talk for 5 years - but he kept going to meetings and stayed sober. He doesn’t recommend waiting that long to talk, though.

One of my friends whose sobriety date is within a few days of mine goes to almost daily meetings for 7 months and he never talks at meetings other than to introduce himself. He says he will talk at a meeting some day, but isn’t ready yet. Everyone does things in their own time, when they are ready.

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#38

Great! Please let us know how it goes :slight_smile:

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#39

I will, thank you. Im hoping that i get on ok with it as i defintely need to have better support structures in place :+1:

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#40

Amazing !! I never realised. I hope all meetings are the same x

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