Day 1. Again. Trying to figure out new purpose… very hard going… feel so alone… Need help!
My story with wine addiction started some 20 years ago. High profile job when your are expected to partake during numerous entertaining functions… totally hated it at the time… never got drunk…
Fast forward 10 years… raising 2 kids on my own… determined to give them best childhood, something i never had… travel with them around the word, stayed at beautiful places, put them through best private schools,… they were my life… I had a purpose, we were happy…
And i was happy but alone… maybe that’s when the addiction started… nice glass of wine at sunset… to make it less lonely… and so it goes… stressed? Glass of Chablis… happy? Glass of champagne… Although, never to the point of looking or behaving drunk… High functioning drunk…
Then my oldest wanted to start a business, so, I invested everything I saved to help him…and more… fast forward 5 years - stupidly sold everything including pension and house to support him… didn’t work out…
I’m a plus side he’s got a very well paid job out of the whole thing… and promptly “dumped” me…
So, in the past year i descended into oblivion… Drinking same wines we used to share on our amazing trips… disconnecting from the reality of being broke, and alone, and not knowing how to move forward…
And now… it still hurts… daily… but I know that no amount of wine will ever fix that hole… So, I need to figure out how to stop. For me. Because I am dying not only on inside, but physically… I can’t carry on…
How do you find strength within yourself to turn around, and being present (without “checking out”) when every part of your being feels hurt and betryaed…
How can I pass day one and make it last… For me… or is it really over when you are 50 and your kids abandon you? Need to find some new point…
Have you managed to overcome some life changing event and stayed sober? Please help!