Me too pretty much. And realizing it is the first step to being free of it. Im so proud of you for realizing this about yourself! Awesomeness
Whats helped me with this is one, realizing it MYSELF, not having others point it out to me, and two changing my thought patterns. So number one, which sounds silly, telling myself, “i don’t have an addictive personality.” Even though i do have one, i tell myself i don’t so i can start to change those thoughts. Number two, what i do, is i use one of many of my DBT skills
Here is a thread where we discuss some of our DBT skills and how they have helped us
(DBT & Me ( & you, you & you!))
As for me and my partner, he doesn’t drink often and i asked if he would be okay to not drink around me or have alcohol when we move in together, and he said yes. My advice? I would have a heart to heart with your partner, if/when your ready.