Hi
Im new here.
Im also newly sober 30 days on Tuesday first easter sober in 20 years.
I was doing great until work finished yesterday all I did was cry.
Pathetic I know but id be looking forward to wine all weekend and I felt left out/bored.
Im good today but wine o’clock is coming and its always a killer.
Midweek im great.
Weekend not so
Youve done a sober weekend before. This is the same. You can do it one day at a time. I get the crying and dont think its pathetic at all. Meeting those first in early sobriety are emotional and exhausting. Go to bed early and plan something for the morning.
You can do this. And reach out if you need backup!!
Thank you x I drink mocktails but can only manage 2 .
I try to remember last time I went out I broke my ribs falling the time before I sprained my ankle.
Never have I gone out without horrendous beer fear or hurting myself im in my 50s it stops now
Oh, well at that rate with your patterns you will break a hip…so better not risk it 
Welcome to the forum! Glad ur here! And thank u for sharing 
Celebrating holidays sober can be difficult at first (and exhuasting). Its normal to feel left out. But rememeber… what ur really missing out on is ALL the things that come with drinking. The arguing, the hangovers, the physically feeling ill, the loss of memories, etc etc. Ur really not missing out on much
What can u do on the weekend to keep u occupied? Is alcohol accessible to u in the home? If it helps, maybw attending an online or in person 12 step meeting would help. The Intherooms app has AA meetings at various hours. Just thought Id mention it in case ur interested. Might help to keep u recovery focused 
Thank you x
No there’s no alcohol at home my husband barely drinks.
Im in bed at 7.32pm reading quit lit.
It helps to see so many women have all been in the same boat.
I dont miss black outs being nasty to ppl or hurting myself waking up feeling vile.
Mornings are my new evenings im up and about at 6am swimming at the gym I feel great then around 5 I feel cravings
Sounds like ur getting a nice new healthy routine in place i love exercise too!! Its become a huge part of my recovery. Just try to keep urself busy during those evenings when the cravings hit. And remember, cravings dont last. They sometimes feel like they do, but they really dont. Ride the wave and do ur best to take it 1 min, 1 hour, or 1 day at a time 
I think Easter was the easier holiday for me bc I didn’t even realize it was a day to drink lol. Christmas and Thanksgiving were the harder ones I guess. At the end of the day I needed to realize I’d use any excuse to drink, didn’t matter what holiday it was. Now I find it super relaxing to just chill and not wake up feeling like shit. It will take some time but you’ll get it. Congratulations on 30 days
welcome to TS 
that’s normal, alcohol contains carbohydrates and your body craves them. be gentle to yourself and enjoy your sweets (maybe start trying tasty healthier substitutes like homemade fruit salad 
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Congratulations on 30 days!! Just chiming in to say that the crying is not pathetic, at all. It’s cathartic. I don’t know about you, but one reason I was drinking was to numb myself from all of those feelings, and when I stopped I had to figure out how to regulate/feel them all over again. I think the tears are at least a little healing. 
As far as Easter, I think you e already gotten good advice. On the days I’m especially tempted I play the tape forward and think about how I’d probably burn the food, say stupid stuff, black out by the end of the night, and wake up with a hangover and regrets if I picked up that first mimosa. 
Sending you lots of care for this weekend!
You’re right I knewI needed to cry i wanted to
get it all out x
Crying (if you need to) is important too. It’s not always about sadness, sometimes it’s just a release. You’re navigating through uncharted waters, fighting off old habits and routines x
I can’t say Easter was ever a big time for drinking for me, but there certainly would have been events. Too much much of it around Christmas etc. I could resonate with what you said. Planning to spend any event getting wasted is pretty grim when you think about it. I remember taking deliveries of food for over Christmas period, and only worrying if we had enough alcohol in to make it through the holidays.
Whenever you have upcoming events that used to be alcohol related, make other plans. You have to create new routines and repeat them. Go visit friends or family, go camping, do whatever it takes to erase past routines.
For me, I’ve dug deep into my faith and making sure I observe Easter as I should. Ive been spending time reflecting and praying. I added a new prayer to my kids arsenal, and they love it. I’ve noticed the more deeply I connect with my faith, the less of a struggle everything else is becoming. I never really bothered with a big dinner for Easter Sunday before, but tomorrow I have a roast dinner planned and I will have all my family around me 
Eat those eggs guilt free! they won’t give you a hangover tomorrow, or make you worry about what you said the night before 
I think being brought up catholic in the north of England lent ending everyone had a drink over easter, wine, especially good Friday and easter sunday as no work monday.
But im good today and looking forward to celebrating 30 days no alcohol with my husband Tuesday x
