# I am so ashamed and embarrassed
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451
**Category:** Emotional Support
**Created:** [May 22, 2022, 12:46am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451 "2022-05-22T00:46:47Z")
**Posts on this page:** 12
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### Author:  [@Sober5](https://talkingsober.com/u/Sober5)
#### Post date: [May 22, 2022, 12:46am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451/1 "2022-05-22T00:46:47Z")
Ive been an alcoholic since age 18. Yesterday was my 37th birthday and I messed up again for good. Now I have lost my family and they never want to talk to me again. I am so ashamed and need help.
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### Author:  [@Dazercat](https://talkingsober.com/u/Dazercat)
#### Post date: [May 22, 2022, 12:53am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451/3 "2022-05-22T00:53:52Z")
Welcome to this great sober community Crystal.
There’s lots of great info here on how to fight addiction. The only way I could become sober is by getting support. And putting in the work. And not taking that first drink. That’s The one that ruins our lives.
Have a good read around.
Here are two good threads to start:
- [Resources for our recovery 3](https://talkingsober.com/t/resources-for-our-recovery/52812)
- [Frequently asked questions about sobriety for newcomers](https://talkingsober.com/t/frequently-asked-questions-about-sobriety-for-newcomers/32401)
I hope to see you around.
🙏🏻❤
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### Author:  [@Sober5](https://talkingsober.com/u/Sober5)
#### Post date: [May 22, 2022, 1:11am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451/5 "2022-05-22T01:11:09Z")
Thanks. I have messed up so many times that this was the last for sure. They have all dismissed me for good, thinking about moving to another country
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### Author:  [@Sober5](https://talkingsober.com/u/Sober5)
#### Post date: [May 22, 2022, 1:11am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451/6 "2022-05-22T01:11:40Z")
I am going to start going back to church and aa
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### Author:  [@Sober5](https://talkingsober.com/u/Sober5)
#### Post date: [May 22, 2022, 1:12am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451/7 "2022-05-22T01:12:10Z")
Thank you. I want to stop drinking for good
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### Author:  [@anon10035965](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon10035965)
#### Post date: [May 22, 2022, 5:07am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451/8 "2022-05-22T05:07:54Z")
Do not make big decisions about moving now, focus on you now and getting trough the day sober. Maybe write down how sad you feel right now? Put that somewhere to see if you have cravings so you can read why you quit in the first place?
You are the only person who can turn your life around for the good.
Show your family you can do it by doing it.
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### Author:  [@Timetochange](https://talkingsober.com/u/Timetochange)
#### Post date: [May 22, 2022, 5:10am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451/9 "2022-05-22T05:10:43Z")
Hi and welcome. Rest today, drink water and eat well . Chat on here and know u can do this. Don’t beat yourself up,just focus on making changes
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### Author:  [@Jason1976](https://talkingsober.com/u/Jason1976)
#### Post date: [May 22, 2022, 5:12am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451/10 "2022-05-22T05:12:47Z")
You can do it… But have to want it
You have to live it. Every day.
You can do it!!
The first step is always the hardest. Prayers to you in your journey. 🙏🙏🙏
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### Author:  [@Dmcg1987](https://talkingsober.com/u/Dmcg1987)
#### Post date: [May 22, 2022, 7:16am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451/12 "2022-05-22T07:16:06Z")
Going to another country at this moment won’t help your problems will follow you I tried all that what I needed to understand is that I was the problem once I understood that I could start to get better AA will be a good start you will meet people who have walked in your shoes praying for you 🙏🏻
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### Author:  [@Rod](https://talkingsober.com/u/Rod)
#### Post date: [May 22, 2022, 7:20am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451/13 "2022-05-22T07:20:26Z")
You know your drinking is affecting your life. By stopping, normality will return slowing. You been drinking for many years so it will take adjustments in lifestyle to quit. You can if you work on it and you will feel better. You will never have to wake up what happened the day before.
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### Author:  [@Klynn](https://talkingsober.com/u/Klynn)
#### Post date: [May 22, 2022, 8:53am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451/15 "2022-05-22T08:53:14Z")
I completely relate, my dad was and is still my best friend he’s completely stopped talking to me and answering my texts or calls because my drinking got so bad… I was upset at first but when I put it in perspective, he’s showing me tough love and wants to see me take the steps and want to be better. It’s a hard feeling to know he’s disappointed in me, but all I can do is focus on me and get better and show I am seeking the true help I needed for so long. Prayers for you!
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### Author:  [@Mursaul](https://talkingsober.com/u/Mursaul)
#### Post date: [May 22, 2022, 9:34am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/i-am-so-ashamed-and-embarrassed/143451/16 "2022-05-22T09:34:55Z")
Hi crystal time heals all wounds they say so give them time, maybe try rehab to give you some more tools in dealing with this horrible addiction. The uphill battle us alcoholics have to deal with that other addicts don’t is that alcohol is celebrated in society, and is everywhere don’t be hard on yourself take it a day at a time.