I quit smoking and drinking (and going to bars). I have absolutely no cravings for any of those things. I could go to a bar and sit for hours. I could sit there watching and listening to a bunch of codependent alchoholics spin and spew BS and play egotistic games. You know… those people who need alchohol and the company of other alchoholics to feel significant. Go to build personal (codependent alchoholic) relationships you couldn’t otherwise. Go to achieve delusional self-esteem through liquid courage. I could choke on the nasty smell of second-hand cigarette smoke and damage my health. I could do that without relapse but that would be a waste of time. I did that for many many years and wasted more time and money than I can image. I could do it, but why? It makes no sense to me. I never found true or lasting happiness in a bar. I enjoy friends, family, random people I meet throughout the day, and life in general much more than I ever did in a bar. Life without emotional crutches or physical addiction is great!
Early on in recovery I went to my old local sometimes. To see my old drinking buddies. Had a few soft drinks, and leave again because it was so utterly uninteresting to be there. Haven’t been in there for years now. Totally agree with your post. Have a great sober day friend!
I’ve actually got no interest at all in sitting with people who are getting drunker and louder by the minute,ive done it once or twice and its just not my scene anymore,its feels false to me.
One of the biggest pitfalls we alcoholics face is projecting our own problems onto everyone else. It’s ego protection so we don’t have to acknowledge that our problems are our own. Plenty of people who drink aren’t alcoholics, same with people at bars. I’m an alcoholic . That’s what matters. Typically if I walk into a room full of people and think they are all the problem then I’m the problem.
Also, food for thought, we were all those people you are now looking down on with such contempt.
This is a very valid point there . There nothing wrong with people enjoying a drink if they don’t have a problem with it . I however do have a problem with it and that why I can’t do it anymore .
I still wouldn’t feel that comfortable around my drunk friend but mainly it’s cos I wouldn’t be able to job in their fun.
I have been meeting my bestie for sober stuff like going round the shops and for movie afternoons ect so I don’t lose that connection with her . 
This is what I needed to hear in regards to my co worker.
The truest form of sobriety is not looking down or judging other addicts.
I’m glad you spoke of codependency, because using other’s behaviors to use as a way to carve out your own identity “i’m not like them” , is fragile codependenty foundation.
The real deal is integrating your changes by being glad thats not you, but also having an understanding of why they are there because well, that was you too.
I truly was codependent. No longer.
I was all those things.