This may sound weird because it’ll sound so untrue, BUT this is 100% truth.
Family trauma meant that I have no family now. I am the only one left. It’s not an option to talk to them anymore.
School was horrendous and I was bullied. No lasting friendships made there. Leaving school I got sick. Straight onto benefits and couldn’t socialise in a work environment. No work friends made.
I don’t get out due to my illness (not even to a local shop)
I’m incredibly lonely and I’ve never had an opportunity to make a friend. Due to this, people lable me.
LONER, LOSER, WIERDO, FREAK etc etc
I’ve tried taking my life a few times. I travelled (in my younger days) I DO have scars that make me look like a freak.
I’ve grown up with no friends and I have none now. No one I can talk to. No one to share things with. I just have nothing.
All I’ve ever wanted is a friend. Someone who will reply to measages and occasionally look after me in times of need (like now)
Life is cruel and life is hard … And with no friends, life can be very lonely.
Welcome. I’m sorry that at a young age you have experienced so much trauma. Online communities help, but we need real life contact and support.
I have just one true friend in my life. He is like a brother. We have known each other for 38 years. All of the rest of the people I know are acquaintances.
I am a Christian and I belong to a Bible study group which offers support.
Find a support real life support group. It is hard, but everything in life that is worth having is hard. I will be interested in your progress and will pray you find what it is you need.
Hi, I’m not young, I’m 31 lol but it sounds good to be called young!!
I’m not religious and I don’t want to be affiliated with any religion. I don’t mean any offence, it’s just not my thing :-/
I’ve tried online meetings but unfortunately they didn’t work out.
I’m ideally looking for a meeting that runs 24/7 so i can have access to support in times of need. Guess I’m living in dream land?
Welcome! Are you sober ? Trying to get sober ? Rooms of AA is a great place to start. This app is a God sent for certain. You have to do something uncomfortable every day if you want a better life. Nothing changes if nothing changes.
You are never ever alone. God is with you at all times.
I applaud you for being brave and wise enough tonseek help . Make it a great day , my friend.
I know what you mean. Friends are hard to come by. I don’t think I made a real, true friendship until I was about 34 (I’m 36 now). To me, friendship means being vulnerable and opening up and sharing my truth with someone because I trust them. It’s a give and take, we help each other. I had to give up the notion that “friends are supposed to be here for me but I don’t have to give anything in return”. That’s not quite how it works, but I tried to make it work that way. It was like, “hey, be my friend and support me and take care of me but I’m not going to trust you or share anything intimate with you.” Ha! Yeah who wants to be friends with that guy? Anyhow, I’m not religious either. My best friend I met in my 12 step program. He reads the Bible but doesn’t push anything on me. Friendship is about allowing others to live their lives without pushing an agenda or trying to control.
We share our feelings with each other, we talk about our struggles and triumphs and we trust one another. We don’t pass judgement.
I think the best place to find a friend is where other people are looking for a friend. I found that in a 12 step program
Being a loner isn’t something to be ashamed of. Beating yourself up for who you are or for your situation won’t make either better, and that’d be the case whether your solitude is a matter of social skills or a choice or something else.
It sounds like you’re doing a lot of thinking about what other people think of you. A little trick from cognitive behavioral therapy: when you find yourself imagining someone else’s negative reaction as the result of a social interaction, try confining your thoughts to the words that came out of their mouth, and reminding yourself: I can’t read that person’s mind. It’s true, you can’t! And what good comes of imagining all the worst things that person could be thinking? There isn’t any.
Anyway, you’ve found a supportive and friendly online community. Many if not most of us are here because we put effort into addictions that would have been better spent on identifying what addiction allowed us not to confront. There are real people on the other end of your interactions in this forum, lots of friends to be made, and no matter what you think of yourself, we’re all on this rock together. Welcome!
