I’ve been trying to quit drinking for over a year now. I went two months and fell back in. I’ll go a week and fall back in. I’ll go a few days and fall back in.
It really doesn’t help that my husband has zero motivation to quit. He enjoys kicking back, toking (I don’t partake), and having a few drinks when the kids go to bed just as much as I do. I’ve never really been a big “do it by yourself” kind of person so it’s hard when he promises to quit with me but then turns around and jokes with “We’re alive! Let’s drink tonight!”
It has, at this point, become a routine, and I’m tired of it. For me… I want to lose weight, I want my anxiety to get better, I want to feel healthier. If my husband quit drinking he’d become more focused and motivated to go to work.
I have no friends I can talk to about this either…. Any favorite motivational messages or anything to keep yourself going?
Welcome to the Talking Sober community. You know what you want. That’s what you need to write down in big letters. If you’re an alcoholic, your biological brain wants its fix, and your conviction can be stronger than your brain. I invite you to read and write here or elsewhere. Testimonials help you stay sober. And a sober life is so much better than a life worn down by addiction.
Don’t forget what you want: to stop drinking alcohol .
Welcome to a great sober community. You want motivation? Sobriety is the best life ever. Some words… you have to really want to live alcohol free. You can’t let others control whether or not you drink. Unfortunately the sober journey is about YOU and only you…. If you really want what we have you will have to do the work we do to remain sober everyday. Check out all the recovery programs in person or online.. I am a very big promoter of AA but there are others. Glad you are here.
Welcome to Talking Sober, Kassandra. I’m encouraged that you have identified that your problem is drinking. You want to quit, but you are finding it hard to stay stopped and you easily return to drinking, is what I understand.
Focusing on your husband’s drinking will not help you to get sober and stay sober. It is a very real situation to deal with, and you will need to have responses ready when he invites you to drink, or particularly when he might begin to express resentment over your sobriety. But the heart of the matter will be to get sober for your own self. Find your own path to sobriety. It will take time that you must invest, it will take self-reflection and corrective action that will be uncomfortable. It will take more than merely abstaining, is my point.
AA or Celebrate Recovery or Dharma Recovery or any sort of structured meetings are a well proven route to sobriety. Counseling with a drug and alcohol counselor can help also. Here is a thread full of ideas for you to check out. Blessings on your house as you tread your road of recovery.
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as you tread your road of recovery.