I was doing so so so good and I messed up. I can’t even believe it actually. Can yall share encouraging stories about when you quit and messed up and then finally quit for good
Day 1 again. Ugh
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What did you do ? And what drove you there ?
I just drank too much. We were at a friends house and I thought I had gotten wine waters with 4.5 abv but didn’t see it was 12.5 abv and drank all four of them. And now I’m extremely sick. I don’t know what drove me there. I guess just being around people.
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In your first ever post on this forum you were talking about not being able to moderate and insisting that you’re not a full alcoholic?
What actually is your relationship with alcohol? What do you wish your relationship with alcohol to be? What do you want from the community of this forum?
You messed up because you drank too much because you accidentally bought stronger alcoholic drinks than you intended to??? 
Well, you still bought alcohol to begin with. You already planned on drinking it when buying it. No matter the strength. You messed up by intentionally planning on drinking and following through with it.
What do you want?
Moderation? You won’t find it here!
Sobriety? Go back to basics. Make a plan. Pick a programme. Work the programme. And take inspiration from the people here. Some of them have been sober multiple decades. No matter what programme you pick, it’s not happening by itself. It requires daily work and dedication.
… and the rewards are amazing!
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Thank you for that. You’re right. Doesn’t matter the strength. I still drank and I shouldn’t have
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Direct but true👍 Sobriety is hard work; it doesn’t “just happen.”
We need to plan for those times when we have a craving; for instance in the first couple of days of sobriety, I felt a little weak, I’d leave my debit card at home when I went to work. I know my weakness can be after work at times. If I don’t have a way to pay for the wine, I can’t get it.
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I quit never messed up just went to meetings did what i was told stayed away from places that had drink in my early sobriety so maybe try a meeting might help wish you well ps plenty of like minded people there
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That’s amazing. Good for you!
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Definitely lacked a plan yesterday. Thank you for your reply
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I’m a HUGE football fan. Every team has a plan. They practice that plan over and over till they get it right. No team runs on that field with the mindset that we’re going to lose today. You have to ask yourself, what is my mindset? I’m I going to work my plan today and win the game or will I give in to defeat. It’s not just quitting alcohol, you have to want it and be willing and determined to win. Quitting alcohol is easy. Staying quit is the hard part. But at the end of the game you will come out a winner. Truly wish you the best of luck.
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It’s okay , you didn’t do anything wrong right ? Thankfully you made it home safely. Don’t beat yourself up
Just one small relapse is not messing up. Be gentle with yourself 
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No I didn’t! My husband said I was absolutely fine! I just don’t remember much 
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Thank you for this 
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Please don’t go to social events with alcohol! I’d know, it’s too easy to slip
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People never give you answer you need to get sober, unless in sober people bubbles like here. Society is normalizing, trivializing and keeping an image of alcohol being funny.
Even doctors didn’t give me ever the answer to quit!
442 days sober and struggling again since few weeks. Stay here Mrs 
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Lesson learned! I even almost brought hops water! Should’ve done that.
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I’m never letting that happen to me again! It’s everywhere and I hate it.
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Next time don’t drink at all. Why are you drinking that piss???
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Honestly facts