I need help with porn

I found this site through the Google app store. I love this site because of the forums.

I have been admitted to pornagraphy since I was 13 years old. Back then it was magazines. As a teenager and early twenties it was movie theaters. I had better control with this addiction back then.

In the 2000’s to now, I have become exposed to internet porn. It has taken over my life. If I don’t stop, it will completely destroy ever aspect of my life. I’m on the edge.

I will be 65 years old in 54 days and if I don’t quite by then, emotionally and mentally, I will feel I have been a failure.

I am turning to this community and know that with this app and community I will finally succeed.

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Hey Wu!

Welcome! Thanks for sharing a bit of your story, it’s definitely a tough addiction to struggle with. There are a handful of us here who identify as porn/sex addicts. Use the search function to look for threads that are related.

If you have a chance, maybe look into SA, SAA, or SLAA meetings in your area. This is a great place to begin forming your social network. However, face to face meetings are necessary sometimes.

Inform yourself too, read sobriety materials and threads when you’re feeling shaky. Reach out if you need help.

Yourbrainonporn.com was helpful place to start. Reading Breaking the Cycle by George Collins was imperative in my recovery also. I highly recommend reading it.

The only rule is, don’t use. Whatever it takes, minute by minute, one day at a time.

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Welcome Wu!
Everything Mtrav said is spot on and excellent advise.
I want to say that setting a date to stop and saying you’ll feel like a failure if you don’t is a sure fire way too sabotage yourself. Focus on stopping today, this minute if necessary, if you can do that, stop looking at porn then you’ll find yourself not looking at it. This addiction is insanely cunning and so easily available for relapse but it can be overcome. I started my addiction about the same age as you and followed the same path, books to theaters to book stores to the internet over the course of about 40 years and now I’m over 3 years sober by working it one day at a time and you can do it too.

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Hey Wu, agree with these gentlemen. I’ll have to say that the age 65 is not significant. Try not to get into this whole new years resolution type thing. I did that for years, where I would have some big event of the year and swear to myself, “I’m a new person now, never again!”

The truth is that we are addicts and cannot make a flat declaration and then think we’re suddenly going to change. What has worked for me over this past year has been constant, deliberate focusing on recovery, day to day, and sometimes hour to hour.

I went to a meeting once where I met an 80-something year old addicted to porn. He never told his wife, who he had been married to for decades upon decades. It put a lot of things in perspective for me.

Wanting sobriety and choosing sobriety are two different things. It’s a lot of work. But, it is possible.

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Welcome @WuShock82. I’m with you in this thing. I look forward to walking the road with you.

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Holy crapola… What a frigging stressful day. I use to use porn to destress. But this app, this community (which I accessed multiple times today) got me through. Thank all of you.

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I’ve found that following a success and not viewing, I have a really super short stint of calm and then the craving hits again harder. Kinda like the wave that you avoid just to see a bigger one take its place.

Be vigilant my friend.

I’m in the same boat as you my friend. I’ve been a porn addict in one form or another for 50 years. I have urges even as I write a response. This app and community helps tremendously. I’m there for you in prayer. One ‘second’ at a time.

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Man, 50 years, I feel you. I’ve not been addicted that long, but, 30 years. I’m on day 10 now, longest I’ve gone in years, and I’m so desperate I can’t even sleep. Good luck sir. You are awesome.

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