I know I don’t want to drink and the mental compulsion has been removed
I want to stop taking the tablets because I feel as though it’s false sobriety as it’s like a tablet is preventing me from drinking and I want to prove that I can do it via my own willpower and free will
I took it for 9 months daily then as needed for another few months, it was a great help and I’m glad I stayed on it until I felt more sure of myself, since I was the one who kept screwing things up by drinking in the past a healthy fear of myself wasnt a bad thing in my book been doing well for a couple years now since being off it.
I’ve decided I’m going to stop taking them but keep a stock of them for high risk situations or If the Mrs needs reassurance. Think I’m spiritually ready to take the step
If there was antabuse for porn addicts I would be taking it every day for the rest of my life. I wish there was something like that for my DOC.
Because I have absolutely zero willpower. That’s okay. I don’t have to be strong. I just have to accept the help because I cannot do it on my own. That’s STEP 1 right there.
The minute I think I got this under control is when everything goes to pot. In my case, sobriety is not some achievement or trophy that I earned. It’s simply a gift. Did I earn it? I did some of the work, but I couldn’t have done it alone. Yes, I am weak. But I’m also sober and I’m gonna take it.
I think if it’s keeping you sober then why change, it’s not a false sobriety it the tool to help you stop. It might even be your sneaky ego laying down well disguised traps for a relapse, they say prevention is the best cure so if it’s preventing you drinking then carry on. IMO.
Hi Darren,
That sounds like a great plan! There are a couple of things I think I know. One is that we learn by repetitive actions - it’s basic behavioral science that you have come to identify, at least in part, your sobriety with Antabuse.
I used Antabuse instead of a spiritual solution. It definitely gave me a feeling of confidence, and a feeling of accomplishment. It was very easy to take my pill in the morning before I really had time to think it over and so guarantee my sobriety for the day. But because I was not treating my alcoholism, I “forgot” to take it for a day, or convinced myself I could cut down to every other day - it was a “crutch”, I should be stronger than that etc etc. And so my denial kicked in and I stopped taking it. One time I deliberately stopped four days before a planned drunk (probably when my spouse was going out of town).
Because you are working a spiritual solution, because you have other supports in place, because you are fearlessly honest today, you are ready to let the Antabuse go. And in this case, keeping a supply for high risk times is a fabulous idea! I’m sure you will do well with this decision - as long as you continue to be ruthlessly honest about any cravings, thoughts romancing the drink and have strong supports.
As guy who just got sober no tablets or other aids only meetings , if your ready buddy then do it take away the scaffold your ready , stay close to your sponsor and youl be ok and if not ill kick your ass youl be ok lol wish you well
Darren, I’ve seen so much change in you since we’ve been here. I feel like your recovery has come a really long way. If you feel like this is honestly a strong, positive step, then I’m glad you are doing it. I would suggest sitting down and maybe writing out your reasons for not wanting to take it, being brutally, radically honest. Then reread it a few days later and see if there is any hint of addiction speaking through what you are reading. We know how sneaky this bitch is!
You and I aren’t close, I don’t know what your recovery looks like these days, but it seems like you’ve change so much from the chronic relapser. It makes me so happy to see you doing so well! I think my favorite part of this community is seeing people who had no hope change and grow, eventually becoming pillars of our dysfunctional recovery community.
Beautiful words of wisdom for you here @DarrenUK. I agree with the others, you have had so much growth. You are asking the right questions, working on your stuff…great work. Keep moving forward and keep us posted!
Darren, I love your progress and that you are sharing your process with this. I love that you are really considering your decision and your motives. This is amazing stuff, my friend.