So as I have started this journey to sobriety just a few people know about it and that I am a alcoholic. During Thanksgiving I was at my fiancé’s and was offered something to drink and I declined. My fiancé mom is really persistent just because I wouldn’t hesitate about taking a drink before. My fiancé told her mom that I quit drinking and she asked why? I told her I want to become healthier but I secretly wanted to be honest and tell her I have a problem but didn’t know how her parents would react. Same with my parents.
I think there are people who quit drinking just because they don’t want to drink anymore and then people like me who need to quit drinking and it’s way way more than just wanting to get healthier.
I don’t know if anything makes sense but it’s just hard.
IT all makes sense to me @Eric_Anthony_Spicka i want to congratulate you for you admit to your self . What im going trough With my fam that they all know im try staying sober but they will never fully understand it all .but they do support me 150% . Do it for yourself first and the other will in a way respect that
I think theres some people who dont understand that and sometimes it can be a good thing when you don’t want everyone to know you have a problem. My dad thinks its as simple as not wanting to drink anymore, his dad is sober now and I tried to explain to him that the want to drink doesnt just go away for alcoholics its a constant pull that we always feel and it taking everything in us to turn down alcohol.
Im very happy that you are able to understand yourself, Im constantly internally arguing with myself because alcohol me is always trying to find a way to drink again even if that means convincing myself I can be like nonalcoholics who can pop in and out of sobriety with ease.
If you feel comfortable telling them why then you should, if not thats okay health is a good enough reason to stop drinking 
I know its a damn hard struggle but as Long as you are willing to let go of the past and accept , it will be alot easier to work on yourself. And also to accept others whoever they are.but thats means im not always agreed With them. I can not change others .what i can do is to stay focused and i accepted i never can drink or use anything else again. You are in the power of choosing and to formgivere yourself
Forgive i did ment .sorry im norwegian
Well said @Restlesssoul. My sister just told me how she used to think this way clear up until this time of me deciding to stay sober. Drinking was a matter of choice. This is the longest by far that I have been sober and she sees the struggles.
@Eric_Anthony_Spicka I have only told one friend of mine recently. The rest I completely cut out of my life on day 1. Been sober 50 days. I said I was taking a break. My immediate family is the only ones that know my real past of consequences from drinking. This is our journey and our focus is to stay sober. Whatever it takes to stay sober.
Congrats on 50 days @Lvng1dayatatime1 thats awesome !