So, tonight I had an interesting conversation with my husband. His dad had left for a bit and we were sitting at our kitchen table and I was staring off into space, just thinking. He asked me what was up and I told him that I’m happy and proud of myself. He asked why and I explained to him that im trying to make changes and that I had joined a sobriety group a couple of days ago and I have almost three days sober. He said oh, good for you. I told him yeah, and good for my liver and our family. I told him that I won’t ask him to quit drinking with me because that is his sobriety and up to him. As his wife, I know I’m responsible for his happiness and well being in our marriage, but I am not responsible for any unhealthy and dangerous decisions that he makes. He struggles with gout but if he’s not going to make a change that’s up to him. I told him that since we have been together and I started drinking with him it’s gone to a downward spiral. He says I have a problem and I now see it and admit it. He says he doesn’t have a problem and I beg to differ but that’s my opinion. It’s up to him to admit it when he’s ready. He said he would support me with my decision as a husband should and would try to cut back himself. Tonight was a good night. His dad came and had dinner, my husband drank the last beer in the fridge and didn’t ask his dad to run and get more. I feel better knowing I have some of his support and a little hope that he may see what I’m doing and follow in return. I love my husband and I know I complain about him not supporting me, but tonight I actually got to open up and see him consider it more and hear his confirmation with my decision. I think this was a good step forward. 
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Damn thats very good best i heard today remember there is always hope. Im happy for you and your man. Nice to see it works . You see positive things do happen !!!
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