I am a newby non drinker and what I am finding is that when drinking all problems in my personal life were allegedly caused by my drinking. Many are a result of my excessive drinking but many are not. I can now see things through sober eye and am better equipped to move forward.
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Hi Rodd welcome 
i think for most people alcohol exacerbates problems that are already there and creates further problems too. PPeople who drink too much tend to use alcohol to cover up their problems and think that alcohol is the problem. An alcoholic like myself will say that the problem is the person not the drink, your won’t really know what the real problems are untill you try to stop drinking
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well you have answered my question. suppose the next question is if alcohol is not the root cause of your problems why stop. Besides the hangovers etc it does also give me pleasure
That’s the bit that’s up to you 
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The question I ask myself after reading your post is why do I drink to excess? In my case it’s because I have chronic pain and was self-medicating. People say all the time that they use booze or their drug of choice to be on or to be off I don’t think the substance is the problem I think it’s what we’re trying to accomplish with the substance.
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Alcohol is the symptom. You treat it by abstaining. I’ve used alcohol for years to treat my depression/anxiety/etc in the process but in the end it only made my life worse.
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The big book got the answers . i wish all a Great Day. I really do love this app
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Addiction is a symptom, i know its tough. I seek to my higher power and find strength trough it and my help team and the meetings help me to see what i have done wrong .relations are a big part of that . IT all have changed in how i think and act. Work the steps
True, the problems are there no matter what. You can ask yourself the question would you want your girls or boys to be like you or any of the little ones in your life? You are setting an example for them and I don’t want that for them since I love them very much and don’t want them to hurt like me. Not preaching here bease that thought had crossed my mind before. But do you notice that your problems cycle and never resolve maybe this time you can tackle them instead of reliving them when drinking making them bigger. Clear your mind, don’t add to the problems with a hangover or guilt. I am done this I need to make a change and drinking is not serving to help me change and be happy. It nice to not feed happy or sad feelings with etoh but to truly feel them and be present in the moment. You r stronger than you think! !!
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I have never heard a situation where alcohol made something better. I used it to self medicate my depression and anxiety, and it caused problems. I did things I would never do with a clear head and now have to live with my mistake, but I learned from it. All drinking did was borrow time from the next day. You can drink your problems away, but the next day, the problem is still there. And alcohol causes depressed mood which makes it worse. Just think about it, you hear how people are happy they been sober X amount of time, but never happy that they fell off the wagon. Drinking might not cause all your problems, but it definitely hinders you from solving them.
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ditto. i agree almost exactly