i’m an alcoholic i been drinking since i was 16 i just turned 24 two weeks ago. It is very difficult to go cold turkey, as many of you can relate. I never saw my drinking as a problem, i though it was something to socialize with my peers or family members. I guess none of them though i had a problem with Alcohol, except for my mother she always told me to stop drinking. I used to drink 4 to 5 days a week. I worked at a restaurant and there is always booze flowing around in a restaurant. Well some how this thanks giving i notice that i have a problem with alcohol, so i decided to give it up and i been sober for 2 days now. I though it will be easy but it’s not. When i was feeling like having a beer or a whiskey this morning i fought against it and tried to call me sister to see if i could get the feeling of drinking out of y head but when i told her about me stop drinking, she just started laughing. I felt really upset, i’m trying to stop something that is killing me slowly and all she can do is laugh and say “Please you will never give up drinking”. so i hung up the phone and started thinking to my self how in the hell will i overcome this if not even my own family believes in me. So i decided to joing this forum and seek help here. I will love to get some advice from people who os going trough the same thing.
ATT: Nardo Vidal
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You’re in the right place to start. I have problems with alcohol and have 4 days of sobriety. My best advice would be to check back here often on the app, read stories, respond in things you relate to to get advice and make friendships. It’s hard work to stay sober. I’m trying and my husband is a regular drinker. He doesn’t think I will make it and stay clean but I use that as the will to prove him wrong. I know that only I am responsible for my sobriety and the opinions of others are just goals and challenges for me. I basically reverse it in my head. You say I can’t? Challenge accepted. Congratulations on your two days and keep at it. And if you fall, just keep finding your bearings and coming back. 
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Welcome, yes it is very hard at the beginning, if you think that you have a problem so YOU HAVE, nobody can tell if you will do or not, challenge you.
You have nothing to lose, less alcohol more life, it is a reality, believe me, the first month I very hard, after that everything will go better and better.
I am in a crisis right now but I still firm.
No more alcohol not for this weekend.
Be strong you can do it.
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I agree with this totally. It’s only been three days but the fact that people think…and say… that I CAN’T, makes me fight harder. Wherever motivation can be found, use it. And when you feel you’re qbout to buckle, try force another half hour…then re-visit. That’s what’s been working for meso far, though I guess we’ll see
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Thank you very much, i will try my best and i hope you stay strong aswell. It would be nice if your husband support you a lil bit more on this decision.
I really apreciate your advise. I decoded to get out of my house because jist the though of being in there alone made me want to grab a drink so now im walking at the park. Thank you so much.
First off, you can do it!
I am a restaurant manager, and I specifically run the bar. At the peak of my relapse, I couldn’t get though am inventory day without catching a buzz, then eventually torn up.
I am ten days now, and I feel great!! I understand the struggle, especially being around it all day, but it is so rewarding.
You start to see the negative effects, that it has on everyone, you start to wonder why you let yourself out in public drunk and it is empowering.
Funny enough, I am a whisky guy and people still tell me it will take me to the grave, I usually would put back a bottle (on bad days even more).
Anyways, keep your head up, you got this and especially if you are a server, you will feel better and connect more on a real vibe with your guests. When I get tempted, my favorite distraction is to chat up my regulars and learn something new about them.
Best wishes, reach out if this form can help.
Yes i been doing that trying to keep my mind of it. I’m at the park right now cause i felt like having a drink in my house.
Congrats on your 2 days. It’s very frustrating when family or friends make those comments. My family kept telling me I don’t have a drinking problem and that bothered me soooo much. In my culture it’s normal to drink a lot so they don’t see the problem, but I did. I began isolating myself from the world just to drink in my room until I was drunk. I did this 5 to 6 times a week. What helped me out a lot and still continuing to help is AA meetings and this forum. In AA you are face to face with soooo much love and soooo much support, no judgments at all. We are all a family! You should try a meeting. I bet you would really enjoy it.
Exactly you know how it is to work around alcohol every day. I’m glad you are 10 days sober. I will definitely contact you when i reach my 10 days. Thank you very much.
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The furthest I have gotten him to go is to say he would cut back on his own drinking. And with me not drinking with him at home he may loose interest in it. The thing I had to come to was that my sobriety is mine and I am responsible for it. I’m not responsible for his or his health since he makes his decisions as far as his drinking goes. As his wife I love him, but this is something I will be selfish on. It’s not just for me, but for our kids. I will take the higher role in our marriage and be the one to be responsible. If or when he joins me is up to him. I don’t judge him for his drinking, only myself for mine. I know we both have a problem. I’m ready and willing to admit mine, he’s not there yet. Everything comes in due time. It’s all up to you and how you choose to view your decision and world.
I never though of it, i will look up for meetings near me. And i know how it is when you come from a country where people drink a lot. I guess thats one of the reasons i started to drink so young.
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Very true. We are responsible for our actions.
Actually my girlfriend broke up with me because of my drinking. Her father had drinking issues when she was a lil girl and she suffered a lot.
Please keep me updated. I’d love to hear about your first AA meeting.
Drinking has a negative effect in every area of our lives as far as I’ve seen. At 4 days sober I can tell you I feel better, my kids are happier and I’m not waking up with terrible hangovers and struggling through my day. Another thing that has helped is I’ve downloaded a diary app on my phone and I keep a journal. Once or several times a day I write. If I’m going through a craving or a doubt, I write or browse around on here. I know that my drinking stems from boredom. I’m a stay at home mom of two (my husband making three…)and I do everything from cleaning to paying the bills. I’ve written out a list of things I can do to keep me busy instead of drinking at night with my husband.
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Congrats on2days sober @nardo.vidal im glad for u being in this forum . You have chose to stop the drinking that is awesome man if you fight for your sobrierty i think your sister will be very Proud and you prove her wrong. You can do this. I do like the idea that you will go to an meeting .you will find Tons of support as you do here . People do care and are in same boat as yourself. You will probably realise that you are not alone . Stay positive .You are do it the right way for you. Support is an awesome thing .belive in your self
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Would you mind giving me the name of the app pls??
And i really appreciate ypur feedback, you sound like a very strong woman. So far i’ve cooked for me it is something i have not done for me in over a year. I think that will help me keep my mind busy. Thanks for your support.
The app is just called diary. If you look up journaling apps you can find tons of them that suit your needs. I try my hardest to be the strongest me I can be. Cooking is always fun and that’s awesome that you did. There’s tons of recipes online for good food and learning a new cooking technique is always fun.
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Thanks a lot for your words. You have no idea how much this app has helped me the, positive comments and support is amazing and to be honest i feel much better already.
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Thank you very much. You are just a great person.
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