Had a really bad day, on so many levels. I am mentally exhausted, I want to go crawl into a corner. I have managed to stay away from the bar. That’s about the only good thing.
I have no social life, I have hardly any friends, I am completely depleted emotionally. The only social life I have is drinking. And when you remove that and I’m just alone with my thoughts.
Hey 
sorry you have had a bad day however ; you’re sober and got through the day! 
. Some days are harder than others. Be proud of yourself for not going to the bar 
. Sitting with feelings is different (to numbing them with alcohol) and we become stronger everyday. Finding peace in your self and quieting the mind can be challenging though rewarding in the long run. 
Online meetings could help with feeling alone. (Cos you’re never alone) 
You are not alone on here. 
Share away, there is always someone on here to listen. In early sobriety it is very exhausting, and your energy needs to be on staying sober. As you get further along you can look into sober hobbies that that help you feel part of a community.
Sorry it was such a tough day but good for you for not drinking over it. I relate completely to the no IRL life friends without drinking and drugs. It really was my whole identity but slowly I am figuring out who I really am and you will too. People who’s whole relationship with you is based around using aren’t real friends anyways and it will get easier to see that in time. Like others have said though you are never truly alone if you are on here as there are always lots of people to chat with or online meetings are a good option too. Hang in there it does get easier.
I spend my evenings alone always. I am not sure how to get out of this, it’s like no one wants to be my friend. I have tried so hard. I’m single also, never had a real relationship and I’m nearly 40.
Yep…been there too.
Hang in there. I’ve found that in time my social life took a turn. Most of my friends were drinkers. I’m at the point where I have no problem going to bars and not drinking alcohol. I just find them extremely boring. I found other things to do. With a little effort, you will too.
Stay sober. Life will get much better. I know it did for me.
Sorry all, pity party of one over here.
We have all been there. 
I dunno, quite a few of us are posting, this pity party is turning into quite the rager! 
Seriously, what are you interested in? What could you do to meet people and make friends? Trying to ‘make a friend’ can be difficult, but joining a group and then making connections there is possible.
Meeting new people and making friends as an adult is incredibly hard especially when it feels like the whole world revolves around drinking these days. For many in person meetings is where they start to meet other sober people to make friends with. I personally have no experience with that though as I live in a rural area and in person meetings are too far out of the way . Maybe joining a group , club or class to try something new you think you might be interested in? Or join a gym?
I did CrossFit for a while but had to stop for financial reasons. I really like snowboarding and even then I had a hard time meeting people but I did find a few people from work. I don’t have kids which I feel like is a big way that people make friendships later in life. Just can’t seem to really build any sort of social life, not sure why. I’ve tried. The only things that stick is drinking honestly.
i met loads of people at meetings and they are still my friends today years later . there are loads of things you can do and meet new friends desire and effort goes along way wish you well
good stuff right here
You will find out over time what activities suit you. No hurry, focus on staying sober.
I live a very reclusive life and I’m happy as can be. I don’t socialize much. I go to a workshop every now and then, join a community gathering once in a while, go out eating with friends about every 2 months. I am here daily, I text with friends and pals to keep in touch, I chat with my neighbours every other day when we meet on the street.
I met some great people in adulthood who stayed in contact, all in settings I was participating in something I was interested in, gardening for example. Making friends takes time and it usually starts with common interest(s). Therefor meetings, AA or any other programm, are a great place to connect sober.
Give yourself time and heal. The more you heal the more you will feel comfortable in your skin. Yes, it is lonely sometimes, but that feeling shall pass too.
Doing gratitude daily is a good way to focus on the good sides of your daily life and it helps to rewire the brain towards acknowledging the little things. Like dishwashers. I’m daily grateful for my dishwasher.
Thanks for the insight. I am almost grateful for my dishwasher 
and my washing machine!!
I ended up falling asleep nearly instantly last night around 7pm, woke up at 9am (after some periodic wake ups) haven’t spoken to a soul yet today besides my daily check in here and this post now. Definitely find that a bit hard. But maybe yeah, focus more on healing, building sober friendships, and just living a healthier lifestyle.
Good friendships take time. Time to find, and time to make. Thinking you can make a social life tomorrow is setting yourself up for disappointment.
I’m not sure what time it is with you, but could you take a walk? Also, again not sure of your situation, but a pet can also be something to direct love to and requires care.
I don’t try and make friends! I am very careful with who I let into my life now Im sober. I have taken time (ALONE) to get to know myself, I have faith I will meet my tribe when the universe (and me) align, so I can get down in self pity of thinking ‘Im alone’ , so I change my attitude and my thinking and perspective on life . I have had to make effort to find things to keep me occupied creatively and for self improvement like the gym and meditation .
I have 2 dogs, they keep me busy although one is quite old now so I need to tone down the amount of activity I do with him. I usually go for a hike once a week with them. Except if the weather isn’t doing me any favors or if I was hungover. Which I’m working hard to not be an issue anymore.
I mean I have been working on building friendships for nearly 7 years now and still seem to be hitting a wall. The only friends I have currently are drinking buddies and even then they don’t message me.
Yeah maybe that’s what I need to focus on. Finding ways to keep myself busy with activities I enjoy instead of expecting others to fill my time. Play guitar or something.q