Do some cupboard sorting? Go through papers / clothes / etc and sort out stuff to throw out? That is something I always should do if I have time.
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Being bored is common in the early days of sobriety. And being bored is a state of mind. Myself, I don’t get/feel bored easily. Probably has something to do with my childhood but that another story.
But I did feel it more in the first couple weeks of my sobriety journey. And It was just my alcohol demon trying to sabotage me. And trying to get me back to being a drunk. And how, I see drinking everyday, now.
Is how boring it was, just to sit everyday pouring drink after drink down my throat until I passed out. Now that is boring!!! And a waste of a life!!!
You are doing good! Waking up to Ten day sober, right. Getting the first ten days under my feet was the hardest. Give yourself grace your brain is trying to pull you backwards. Don’t let it. Keep re-wiring it. Drinking for us only leads to a road of destruction.
So here is couple of more things to do while you are growing that sober muscle.
-Work on your resume.
-Work on your interview skills. The job market is getting a little tough out there.
-You talked about going back to school. What do want to do? Do you know? Spend Sometimes researching and figuring it out.
-Do you like movies? Watch a bunch of trailers the Make a playlist of movies. Then Snuggle up and watch a movies. (I love movies)
-Binge watch a series.
-Color, draw, do some kind art project/craft.
-Baking it is fun, plus you get something yummy to eat. Don’t know how to bake then watch some videos and give it a try.
-Plan a dream vacation (it fun to imagine going somewhere, and who know maybe you actually go with $ you save from not drinking)
- spend time building your sober muscles. Read around here, listen to pod casts, etc..
- do a Puzzle, build something with Lego’s
- go for a walk
- Join a gym, book club, go to a AA meeting
- volunteer somewhere this will give social interaction
- Get some rest
- Have spa day at home
- Take shower/bath
- learn Meditation
- listen to some music ( and dance around the room like nobody is watching
- Read, make a list of books you like to read and go to library
- Create a vision broad ( I like to create broads on Pinterest)
- Journal
- Clean something (housework the gift that keep’s giving)
And last one - create your own list of what you can do when feel bored
You got this! @JMS19
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Certain times of the days can be harder, too. For me it was right after I got off work and right after Hubby got home. I Really had to work hard, for a while to get comfortable around those times.
That bored feeling would kick in.
So I started going for a walk or cooking dinner to detract myself from picking up that first drink
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Wow thanks everyone. Some great suggestions. I definitely struggled yesterday, ended up walking to the grocery store and bought some store made icing. I will make a cake later today. I set an alarm to wake up early so I didn’t bed rot all day. I think today and tomorrow I will be ok, Thursday I will be receiving my last paycheck that will be the most difficult day for sure. So I will need to plan out the day and the next few days.
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smart to think ahead and get in front of any hard days. What have you come up with for Thursday and the next few days?
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Tomorrow my contractor is coming to fix a few things in my bathroom that i had renovated so i am thinking I will finish painting it. that’s the plan for Thursday and Friday @JazzyS
Tomorrow it’s supposed to be nice so I think I will spend time outside with the dogs. Ever since I saw my doctor a few weeks back I have more energy, I had a birth control implant in my arm that was dragging me down big time. I have had it removed and it’s been revolutionary! Anyways tomorrow might spend time down by the river with the dogs and there’s a few meditation and breathing exercises in my EAP addiction program I’m working on.
I think my immediate goal needs to be to stay home and busy, but if I go out with friends or restaurant or anything I could most likely relapse.
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just want to send you loads of hugs… so happy to read your post - it has a positive light to it!
Love a day out in nature with the dogs - they will love it too! Glad you got that implant removed and are feeling better - can really wreck havoc on the hormones.
Making solid goals and protecting your recovery - love this for you 
I can relate. I had to find hobbies when I first got sober. I never realized how much time I spent drinking and doing drugs until I stopped. I just kind of sat around like, now what? I started exploring different hobbies to occupy my time. Adult coloring, making jewelry, crafts, puzzles, etc
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Pretty crazy to think that drinking and doing drugs were “activities” it’s like somehow sitting alone drinking was better than just sitting alone? Anyways, the guy didn’t show today for my bathroom so tomorrow I can’t paint. BUT I did go to the river with my dogs and had a great day. Gave them both a bath today. So now my house stinks a little less haha
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What a beautiful place to hang out!
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How are you doing?
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I drank for the effects, not the taste. Drinking NA beer in the past kind of teased my brain, like it was waiting for something to happen. I never really liked the taste of beer so I just stay away. I’ll drink flavored sparkling water, juice, or an Arnold Palmer.
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I found the same as well. It was almost like my brain thought I should be drunk. Anyways I think it’s definitely too soon to be playing around with NA versions of any drinks.
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Good morning! I’m good. I made it thru day one of pay day without drinking! I was not so lucky with gambling though. But drinking and drugs are my priority right now. So far so good,
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Good to hear. Keep going, you got this. The strong your sober muscles get, the easy it gets.
Hope you have a good day and get out enjoy the day. So many possibilities, me I’m thinking I might head to the ocean for the day.
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Beautiful picture
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@Hazy thank you! It’s a beautiful and calm spot.
thanks @Von100 for the encouragement. I hope you enjoyed your day by the ocean (if you did make it there)
Been a bit quiet the last few days, just been focusing really hard to staying sober. It’s going ok. I had a few moments really in regards to friendship (or lack thereof) that bummed me out a bit. But then I also told myself that these “friendships” aren’t healthy so it doesn’t or shouldn’t matter that they are superficial. The more I work on myself, I have hopes that healthy friendships will come around.
Had my therapy session yesterday and planned my next one for next Friday and then weekly until my benefit severance package runs out. She recommended a self study book, “managing your substance use disorder” by D Dailey. Anyone ever read that before?
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Much love to you - Yes! Superficial friendships have nothing to offer us. You are doing great and I do believe you will forge solid healthy friendships in your sobriety. Keep up the amazing work!
Glad the therapy session went well and that you have planned out more 
Not familiar with the book but in reading the reviews I see that it has been very helpful.
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Quiet time focusing on recovery is just what has to be done in the early days. You are tight where you should be. 
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I did make there yesterday. It was very nice day there. Hope you had good weekend as well. Stay strong
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