# Keeping friends
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/keeping-friends/172573
**Category:** Life in Recovery
**Tags:** friends, how-to, sobriety
**Created:** [October 14, 2023, 3:53pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/keeping-friends/172573 "2023-10-14T15:53:02Z")
**Posts on this page:** 2
**Page:** 1
### Author:  [@Finchthapoof](https://talkingsober.com/u/Finchthapoof)
#### Post date: [October 14, 2023, 3:53pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/keeping-friends/172573/1 "2023-10-14T15:53:02Z")
Im supposed to hang out with a friend today, one I used to party with. She’s changed and is now sober, too. Well, sober-ish… she smokes pot. I told her not to bring any. How would you guys maintain the boundaries, just in case it comes up?
Did all of you do a complete reboot on friendships or did you keep some of the old friends?
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### Author:  [@Dolse71](https://talkingsober.com/u/Dolse71)
#### Post date: [October 14, 2023, 4:09pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/keeping-friends/172573/2 "2023-10-14T16:09:42Z")
Turns out the only thing I had in common with all my mates was getting wasted so once I stopped I had no reason to be near them. Personally now I wouldn’t have any relationship with anyone with an addiction bc of all the shit that goes along with it.
That’s just me though, sobriety has changed the way I look at people and myself, if neither of us bring anything to the friendship that benefits us both then what’s the point.