How’s it going people. Been a while since I posted on here. So the other day I went to play football with a group of friends I’ve know since school, we all grew up together and fell into the bad habit of drinking and experimenting with drugs at the same time when we were about 14. Some of the mates I had back then have moved away and then there’s some who stayed and have been doing the same thing since we were 14. I was part of that group who never really got out of the habit of drinking and doing drugs until last year when I decided to get sober. Since then I have relapsed a couple times, usually when I met up with those same mates and we end up drinking because that’s what our friendship has consisted of so for long now, we know nothing else. Anyway, I have been distant from them for a while, occasionally I’d meet one or two of them for coffee and that’d be the extent of our relationship. However, the other day I got a message saying they were all going down to the park to play football and I should come. I thought that could be really fun and it’d be nice to catch up with everyone. When I got there two of them were drunk already, another hungover and the rest went to the shop and brought back a loads of beers. I wasn’t tempted to drink at all but every time I tried to get the game going it would last about 2 mins before they all gave up and went to smoke and drink. Eventually I gave up and went home pretty disappointed. Since then I have realised that all my friends who I have known for years are no longer people I can be around. Unfortunately I don’t really know anyone who lives in the same city as me who isn’t like that, the only other friends I have are people I met at uni and they are all over the country. They are great people who are motivating and good to be around, but my relationship with them is essentially only online when we play video games or do zoom quizzes. So basically what I’m saying is I feel very alone right now and while I’m sad I have lost those people I grew up with, I know its for the best but it doesn’t make it any less bitter. I dont really have a point to all this or a question, I just wanted to share it.
It is sad to lose old friends like that but it’s just a part of life. Sounds like your moving on and changing and they are still the same. It’s all a part of life and you are moving on to a new chapter in yours. Make it a great chapter!
Bye for now…
Same thing happening to me. I stopped hanging out with friends I have known for many years now. Some days, I feel lonely too. But I keep telling myself that it’s just part of the process. Anyway, good luck! Don’t lose hope
It’s common for that to happen. A few of the friends I drank with got sober but we all live in different places now. However, I’ve made more friends in AA than I had drinking buddies. The friends I met in AA truly know me more and on such a more personal level than my drinking buddies ever did. For that, I am truly grateful!