I still haven’t come out yet. I’m nervous on how my family will react. I know I been hiding this for a long time and it’s frustrating and it’s holding me back from being truly happy. I could use some strong advice on this please.
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You’re brave and strong for talking about it here Meka. I’d say just follow your own advice. Keeping this a secret is keeping you from being truly happy. Of course I don’t know your family. When I (finally) came out to mine I was a bit disappointed by their half hearted reaction. But coming out to them sure helped me. We need honesty in our lives. We need to be able to be ourselves and live our lives. For ourselves. Thanks for sharing. Big hugs.
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Hi Meka,
You possibly already know their temperature gauge around these topics and I hope that’s positive towards queerness? My family were all every phobic imaginable……and loudly so, every day, every topic, every possible marginalised person didn’t escape their opinion…
. I hope you have more of a safe environment and if you are able to, then just be true to yourself and go for it. The sooner you live as you, the sooner doors will open.
Good luck, please let us know how it goes. Sending hugs 
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As a parent, I can tell you that the love for my children transcends my beliefs. I hope you can be at peace soon.
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Thank you for responding Menno I really appreciate your advice 
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Thank you so much and yea that is pretty much how my family is too but I know it has to come out soon. Big hugs
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Two of my kids. Twin girls came out to us a little while ago around the same time. One trans, one gay. Even though me and my wife are extremely liberal, it was still a little hard only because now I worried more about their safety and things being harder on them, because people can be scumbags.
What I come to realize, is their life is their life. Just like yous is, and all I can do is support them and have their back 1000%. Everybody deserves and should live their best lives. You got a big loving family. I’m willing to bet money that you’ll be supported. 
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Thank you Dan
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Aw Joe. Good parent points to you man. Not all parents are able to be so open and thoughtful!!
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Thank you Joe and I guess I should explain better but I’m not completely gay I’m bi but the past two years I been attracted to and dating women more but at the same time wanting to meet someone that I can marry and have kids with so basically I’m just confused as hell right now
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I heard my favourite striker and her fiancé are pregnant today. I was so happy for them, until I read a million comments underneath. I mean I’m still overjoyed for them, but is there any need to fucking comment hate??
It’s 2024.
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I’m trying hard but not always succeeding not to read comments on social media. Congrats to Sam and her fiancé. And you. 
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We used to have a saying in communist Poland: The Soviet Union is almost endless, human stupidity overshadows even that. So…
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That’s Kristie Mewis of the USWNT (former, not been recalled under Emma Hayes) and West Ham.
And Sammy K of Chelsea of course. Future ballers in the making 
Homophobic abuse of Kerr and Mewis ‘crazy’ - Bompastor - Sam Kerr and Kristie Mewis baby: Chelsea manager Sonia Bompastor calls homophobic comments on social media 'crazy' - BBC Sport
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This is such a pity to see in this day and age but unfortunately if you look at the comments on anything on social media you are going to see the views of small minded hateful individuals half of whom I think just do it for the reaction that’s why I try not to look at comments people just can’t be happy for other peoples joy
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The homophobic stuff is really awful.
I also am very happy to see that so many people support them and that they do have the opportunity to be in a relationship, have a baby and a family. I consider these basic human rights. Every time I see such a happy announcement I get a bit teary 
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Yeah I’m just very touchy about this whole subject, because it’s yet another layer of emotional abuse. A lot of us dealt with abusive or neglectful relationships/parents which led to limiting beliefs and low self esteem. I think homophobic / transphobic or racist bullying on top of this could be the nail in the coffin for a lot of delicate (or not delicate) people. No need. Just keep your dirty mouth shut if you can’t be happy for anyone.
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