I’ve always been told that the company you keep will define you. For example, you are around people who drink all the time. Your eventually going to drink. Anotherwords the more you suround yourself with good people who are encouraging and uplifting the easier you find it to be encouraging and uplifting to others. What I really mean to say is positivity breeds positivity and negativity breeds negativity. Everyday you have that choice to be positive and have an amazing day or be negative and everything about your day is terrible. Only you can decide.
Nothing in life is Good or Bad. It just is. We each have our own set of morals we live by which in turn will have an effect on the way we perceive any given situation.
There are many universal perceptions of what will be perceived as negative eg, natural disasters but the reality is like I said. It just is.
What sucks balls is when you’re such a wretched mess that these good people won’t keep you in their company. I agree we are the sum of the 5 or so people we spend the most time with. Developing into a more tolerable person really helped me be welcome at different tables. I hear what you’re saying about just wanting to be matched and in good company to you. Hanging out with people who have what you want and you do what they do was an AA lesson that applies to so many parts of my socializing. I’m still hiring for about 3 of these 5 people and fill the gaps with online things while I keep taking clear shots at hiring for these 5 oh so important influencing people. I also spend time with people in a guarded way who I have more than and attempt to teach them how I got more by being better at getting better.
You’re on the right track and it’s good to share your thoughts.
Theres a saying " Show me your friends and i show you your future "
Got all my friends today from meetings still sober
I like that saying. I’m going to have to remember that one.
Iv used online meetings alot but not so much this time getting sober ( just over 4 months) but i am needing to meet people and connect and im thinking face to face would help me alot. Its just that getting there and socialising gives me anxiety but i know its something i need to do to re connect with the world and make good friends who understand and can support eachother.
I know i need to do this now so my support is set up incase of a bad few days pop up instead of waiting for it all to go wrong.
Thats my girl get to ftf meets wish you well
Have you ever thought about having Skype meetings? I know it would be online but, it would still be staying connected with people and like minded goals.