# Looking for friends. Lonely and relapsed 💔
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036
**Category:** Relapses
**Created:** [May 16, 2020, 9:17am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036 "2020-05-16T09:17:07Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
**Page:** 1
### Author:  [@Shellshockk](https://talkingsober.com/u/Shellshockk)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 9:17am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/1 "2020-05-16T09:17:07Z")
I’d love to meet some people to chat with on here. I’ve had one person reach out but it turned into him just constantly asking for “pics”, which I always declined, and him asking sexual questions. It made me not even want to open this app anymore. I’m on this journey completely alone and this is really all I have right now. Well, after days of not opening this app up, I relapsed yesterday. On day 24 💔 I’m really discouraged, lonely, and feel like a failure. Doing this alone is not working for me.
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### Author:  [@Frank68](https://talkingsober.com/u/Frank68)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 9:55am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/2 "2020-05-16T09:55:20Z")
Congrats on day 24! I’m sorry for your bad experience here. Please keep coming back and posting. You have support here from people that want to see you succeed and you can do it!
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### Author:  [@DarrenUK](https://talkingsober.com/u/DarrenUK)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 9:55am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/3 "2020-05-16T09:55:22Z")
Who messaged you that? Name and shame…
Otherwise message one of the admin 👨💼 👩💼
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### Author:  [@DarrenUK](https://talkingsober.com/u/DarrenUK)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 9:57am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/4 "2020-05-16T09:57:23Z")
Why don’t you join on the Talker Sober Zoom meeting later on today?
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### Author:  [@Shellshockk](https://talkingsober.com/u/Shellshockk)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:00am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/5 "2020-05-16T10:00:35Z")
I HAD 24 days but relapsed 💔 I did realize I hate everything about alcohol though. It wasn’t fun, it didn’t feel good, I feel terrible today, can’t sleep, wasted an entire day literally doing nothing, and honestly it doesn’t even taste good to me anymore. I hope It was bad enough of an experience that I won’t do it again.
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### Author:  [@Frank68](https://talkingsober.com/u/Frank68)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:04am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/7 "2020-05-16T10:04:08Z")
I had over a year and then I relapsed. I’m back to being sober and hopefully will stay that way. It’s harder to keep busy now that we are in a stay at home order. Do you have anything you’ve always wanted to do like learn a language or play an instrument? Now is a good time to start
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### Author:  [@Shellshockk](https://talkingsober.com/u/Shellshockk)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:04am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/8 "2020-05-16T10:04:30Z")
I’d hate to get him kicked out and loose his sobriety. He asked daily for me to send pics and what I like in sex. I asked repeatedly for him to stop and then he started making fun of me that I’m “too serious” and don’t know how to have any fun. I have him blocked now.
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### Author:  [@Shellshockk](https://talkingsober.com/u/Shellshockk)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:05am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/9 "2020-05-16T10:05:39Z")
I tried but I couldn’t figure out how to report it
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### Author:  [@Frank68](https://talkingsober.com/u/Frank68)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:05am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/10 "2020-05-16T10:05:57Z")
Good that you blocked him. This isnt a dating app. It’s a place for people to come and feel safe to get the help they need.
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### Author:  [@SoberBeliever81](https://talkingsober.com/u/SoberBeliever81)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:07am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/11 "2020-05-16T10:07:30Z")
Unfortunately no matter where you go there will always be creepers F\*CK them the only thing you need to focus on is staying sober ask a power greater than yourself to keep you away from a drink and if necessary other substances I had almost 8 years went out took me 10 years to get back into living life like a citizen nothing is worth throwing what sobriety offers out the window even if it’s too dark to see it now trust in the whole concept ask for help and as someone had said previously go to zoom meeting whether your comfortable with it or not the twelve steps dont have the word I in them however they do have we a whole lot alone I cannot do this together with a higher power we can and it gets a hell of alot easier May these words fine you iij n good health and spirits and bring you some semblance of help
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### Author:  [@Shellshockk](https://talkingsober.com/u/Shellshockk)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:10am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/12 "2020-05-16T10:10:20Z")
I’ve been keeping busy hiking and going on trails. I’ve been reading and doing some art. I finished homeschooling and stupidly thought I could treat myself to A drink… Turned into basically the whole bottle. Then when I opened my door this morning, there was a bottle of wine on my porch. Like, SERIOUSLY!!! I just can’t have ONE drink. And I know that now for sure.
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### Author:  [@Frank68](https://talkingsober.com/u/Frank68)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:14am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/14 "2020-05-16T10:14:25Z")
There is a little voice in my head that tells me one drink is ok. For instance like yesterday the weather was nice and I just got home from work so going out back and having one were ouldnt hurt right? Haha not going to. I know what it will eventually turn into. It got to the point when I was drinking that if I was awake I drank. Not good. I’ll stick to coffee and club soda. Safer that way.
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### Author:  [@Shellshockk](https://talkingsober.com/u/Shellshockk)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:17am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/15 "2020-05-16T10:17:49Z")
Same here. I honestly forgot how terrible I feel after I drink. I will definitely stick to club soda and diet coke.
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### Author:  [@Shellshockk](https://talkingsober.com/u/Shellshockk)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:20am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/16 "2020-05-16T10:20:23Z")
When I removed him, it removed the chat. I screenshot his profile. Can I send that to someone?
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### Author:  [@DarrenUK](https://talkingsober.com/u/DarrenUK)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:27am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/17 "2020-05-16T10:27:16Z")
@SassyRocks @ifs @C-sun @Eke @siand
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### Author:  [@siand](https://talkingsober.com/u/siand)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:28am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/18 "2020-05-16T10:28:27Z")
Thanks Darren just saw this thread. @Shellshockk will message you 😊
@aircircle do you have the link handy to the thread you put together on this subject?
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### Author:  [@siand](https://talkingsober.com/u/siand)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:31am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/19 "2020-05-16T10:31:23Z")
There are lots of friends to be made here! It is a very busy forum and it can make it hard to connect but the more you read the more you will see others who you might click with… Either at a similar place in their recovery, similar interests, or someone you’d like advice from.
Check in regularly, the daily check in thread is good if you can keep up with it!
And for anyone, if you experience behaviour that makes you feel uncomfortable you can flag any posts (including private messages) or send a message to [@moderators](https://talkingsober.com/groups/moderators) 🙏💖
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### Author:  [@Misokatsu](https://talkingsober.com/u/Misokatsu)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:51am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/20 "2020-05-16T10:51:43Z")
That is appalling behaviour! I also relapsed on Wednesday (I had 140 odd days). Feel free to chat anytime 🙂 Don’t let a creep chase you away!
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### Author:  [@aircircle](https://talkingsober.com/u/aircircle)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 10:58am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/21 "2020-05-16T10:58:19Z")
Here is the link: [Respecting personal boundaries in recovery](https://talkingsober.com/t/respecting-personal-boundaries-in-recovery/84271)
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### Author:  [@Englishd](https://talkingsober.com/u/Englishd)
#### Post date: [May 16, 2020, 11:31am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/looking-for-friends-lonely-and-relapsed/89036/22 "2020-05-16T11:31:47Z")
If that dude wants pics I can take a few of my ass to send him
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