I’m having a lot of success fighting one of my addictions, self harm. It’s been hard and I’ve been very close to relapsing but I’ve made it 32 days today. However, dealing with the pornography and sex addiction, not as successful. I just reset again for the second time this week and it kills me. It’s hard to find support for this when you’re a female especially, most SA groups are male exclusive or it’s really uncomfortable for women with sex addictions to be there. I’m in a committed relationship and I want to get better so this isn’t something I bring into a marriage. But I’m running out of things I can do to help me fight. Putting roadblocks up isn’t enough anymore. I don’t want to be fighting defensively, I want to fight on offense for once and get past this.
My biggest fear is that my continual relapses with this side of my addiction cycle will eventually cause a fatal relapse in self harm. Anyone else relate to this? I feel like I’m the only woman on here fighting this.
Hey, there’s definitely some females on here going through the same thing. You might have to read back through some old threads but you will definitely find them.
Hi I’m a lady with love and sex addiction ! I can relate to how hard it can be. Where do you live? My city does have a womens only group. I think due to the nature of the addiction a lot of it stems from abuse of sorts so it can be safer to separate genders, not necessarily all the time but it’s better to avoid trauma triggers. I don’t know how easy it is to start a group, or where you have to be in your recovery. Is that something you may consider? Feel free to pm me anytime. You are the first lady I have met here too. This app has helped me a lot though so don’t give up on it just yet. There are a lot of lovely/safe women and men here.
I was just reading the news before bed and saw this. Not a sex addict myself but thought it might help some of you with some useful information or identification especially as there is a woman in the article. Please tag anyone else you might think will find it useful on here. I’m not sure who all the SAs are.
Hey sorry to hear about you battling multiple things right now, but I’m glad you’re building up sober days in one area consistently. Sometimes you progress faster in sobriety in one addiction than another. So please don’t let it discourage you altogether. Seems like @Sophiesrecovery can identify better than I can. But that doesn’t mean I don’t understand part of what you’re going through. I’m a female porn and masturbation addict,or PMO addict (less to type and it gets more of the whole picture). As you’ve already seen,you’re not alone here. I’ve met some women who were both sex addicts and love addicts or both sex addicts and porn/masturbation addicts. We may be few,but it’s quite possible that a lot of us are out there and just not ready to admit it. Either way there’s a lot on here that you can read and you can reach out to any of us;I don’t think anyone will mind. Hoping the best for you redhead
I am a male. I relapsed in the same thing two days ago. I hope you find help here. From my part count on my prayers and I offer to God the emptiness I feel to give you in exchange a great relief.union of prayers
It’s months later and I cant tell you how encouraging it is to me to reread all your kind words when I need to remember I’m not alone. A quick update, I’m a few days from my six months clean of self harm and I am so thankful for that. The sex and porn addiction has still been up and down. But I’ve seen longer periods of success lately. I hope that continues to be a trend and that I learn to keep my guard up.
I had a bad relapse tonight and it was pretty devastating because I had reached 25 days clean. But looking back at all of your solidarity I feel comfort and a urge to keep fighting for my sobriety. Thank you
have u ever tried no fap, there is plenty of information there on pmo addiction, just look it up, I have 21 days sober from pmo, and rebooting is deffinetely tough, just hang in there, build some streaks, and relapses happen, but learn from them and avoid the triggers next time. Don’t give up!
I have been trying to quit for good myself for as long as i can remember, it always seems to sneak up with out me realizing it. It really takes one moment of weakness and is back to daily searching of p. I try to spend my time, doing things that I like besides p, but if i do relapse, i counted as a lost and just keep moving forward and trying to avoid the same mistake twice, is not that easy for me, but I make effort to not put myself in a situation where I will fail. Just keep doing your best and remember nobody is perfect, but don’t give up on yourself.
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