I know I've posted about this before but I just love this analogy and would like to share again
Anyone who hikes or explores through the forest can understand how hard it is to blaze a new trail....especially to make it a permanent, pretty and well worn pathway, with no sticker bushes!
I loved something I heard that said our minds are the same way.
We have to be consciously aware of the new, good, pathways we want to take and take them and take them until they become permanent, automatic. Its the same way we learned to take our negative, ugly pathways......over time, till they became automatic. Once we choose, over and over and over again to take the new pathway....the old one will beautifully close up with sticker bushes and we won't "automatically" turn to them. IF we were to choose them.....it won't be an easy choice. Taking the new pretty pathway, that'll be the pathway to take.
They used to say our minds do not grow after we are adults but new studies are finding we can learn new ways to be! (I have proven it to myself as now my new pathways are the automatic choice instead of the old dark and ugly ones I took for 30+ years)