After doing super well for almost a week, gave in yesterday. Cant remember most of the night and feel so dissapointed.
So today is yet again my day 1, lets hope this time i get it right.
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What are you doing to stay sober? Its easy to just not pick up. The hard part is dealing with life and people while remaining sober. Its not gonna be the last time if all ur going to do is reset n try on ur own again. Thats in the same cup as just making a excuse to relapse. If your not going to make any changes then your going to keep hitting the same 1 week or 2 week target before relapsing again.
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Sorry to hear Coert. Any idea what made you relapse? Try to learn from it so you can avoid a new one. The more you relapse, how harder it is to stay sober. Make a good plan and stick to it!
Here are the things that helped me so far, maybe they help you too.
- No alcohol in my house
- Refrigerator filled with nice food and alc. free drinks
- Telling my spouse about my sober plan
- Avoid alcohol related activities and friends (at least in the beginning)
- Having a day counter
- Avoid wine/beer section in the supermarket and avoid liquor store
- Taking a strong vitamine B complex
- Taking melatonin to help me sleep
- Be gentle to myself, like go to bed early, taking a long bath, etc.
- When I have cravings: I don’t pick up that first one but I walk, run, work out, eat chocolat, watch Netflix, clean, study, whatever.
- Ask for help when I need it.
- Be here every day to read and check in sober.
I wish you well 
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Thanks going to try those
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Also thinking i need to find the nearest one
In this case i relapsed because we got together with friends. I think i will need to isolate myself a little for a month or so and just stay away from situations that fuels my habit. Mixed with my anti depressants the alcohol made me blank out almost the whole evening. Such a crappy feeling today, crappy enough to motivate me never to touch it again
Maybe write down how crappy you feel right now. Our addictive brain is a master to forget that feeling in a while 
Avoiding alcohol related events in the beginning is a good one!
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AA and NA meetings daily as well as church has been the difference between night and day for recovery this time around for me. Having the support of people who care and expressing what you are going through and what you are feeling to others is important as well, their advice and support can be so powerful, most of all having a spiritual connection to the higher above can bring so much peace and strength. Stay strong and we are all here for you 24/7!! God Bless!
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Your going to find its best to loose them all together as friends not just a few months. When your sober your interest are not the same. You only ever see them while ur hanging out getting high with them. When your not fitting in and they wont call you anymore or see how ur doing. Usually these friends hardly did anything for us but be social and use together. Hopefully you can find a better crowd of friends or even being solo is better. I know i can always rely on myself but not anyone else.
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I hear very often the suggestion to change all the people,places and things associated with using. I have two thoughts on this. First, if I have a good sober reason, I can go anywhere with anyone and do anything. Second, if I don’t change my own self, nothing else really changes.
I would go to AA meetings and hang out with some AA people afterwards. And then drink on the way home. Because I wasn’t done. I could be in the safest place with the safest people and still find an excuse and a way to drink.
Hoping it will be different, without a solid plan, never worked for me. When I had a plan (no matter how confused, as long as it was inclined to promote sobriety) and worked it, then I got some hope.
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I tried the isolation route once. Then I just drank alone. Like @SinceIAwoke no matter what I did worked until I was ready to change myself. I’ve spent the last week in Florida on vacation in a situation where the old me would have been drunk the entire time. However, this time I have a program in my life. I’ve barely even thought of a drink since I’ve been here.
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I avoided situations where people would
Be drinking in early sobriety. Still do really and try to make social plans built around activities where drinking is not included or optional. When I went to spend time with people I would send them a text or email prior to explaining my sobriety and I was very clear that this wasn’t for a diet or just giving it up for a month but that it was affecting my life in negative ways and I made the choice tos too drinking for good. Friends and family have been extremely respectful of this and either not drank in front of me or at least not offered me alcohol. I engrossed myself I reading everything about sobriety and self help. I changed who I “follow” on social media so that I am always seeing other sober people posting on instagram which has helped me to find other ideas on how to live sober as well as learning about how alcohol is seen as “normal” in our society and how many ideas I had that I was ready to question. I have not attended meetings but have found some in my area that I may attend. Whenever I have a thought of how just one drink would be ok I play the tape through remembering where I was when I decided to get sober and what that one drink Would lead to and how I would feel physically and emotionally if I let that happen.
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