Mental health memes and discussion (Part 1)

AyBee · August 4, 2021, 9:58am

Tell me more about this burger.
Does is have cheese?

Its_me_Stella · August 4, 2021, 3:44pm

Wow… this really hit me.
You know when people come onto this forum and are in that really dark place, it’s crazy how many of us get it. We have been there and we know. I usually don’t have many words for these people because I remember when I was in that place, there was nothing anyone could have said to me that would have made me feel any better or changed my mind about what I wanted to do with my life. Something switched in me both times when I had been living my rock bottom and suicidal for so long. I couldn’t tell you what it was but something changed and made me want to live again. All I can ever hope for everyone else is that they get that desire to live back too.

Dazercat · August 4, 2021, 7:21pm

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Faugxh · August 4, 2021, 7:48pm

Wow. A year ago I would have replied, as was my impulse right now: “where can I sign up?” Because everyone one of those hit true for me.
Now, today, as I read the list, they still are true, but I can see like tiny progress bars next to them.
Like life bars in a video game. Some bars are empty, so some things are unchangedly true about me still but have gained perspective. And gone maybe from truth to belief.
And some bars are even filled to a certain extent. Some of the characteristics above are changing in the degree in which they apply to me. It’s a surprising sight, mentally. Still can’t quite believe such deep rooted things can change for me. Is it really me?

Its_me_Stella · August 4, 2021, 8:00pm

I feel the same way, it’s very cool.

Faugxh · August 4, 2021, 8:46pm

Really love this. The feeling of being an afterthought is the worst.
Drop city on the other hand is probably like my new fav expression.

Kathryn · August 4, 2021, 8:57pm

Hey there,
I’ve had some pretty deep conversations about forgiveness and there’s one thing that really stuck out to me that might help you…
Forgiving and forgetting are 2 completely different things that do not need to be connected like many people think. Try to think about what is wise- so, it is wise to forgive someone, but forgiving is less about the other person and more about releasing yourself from the constant resentment you feel towards the person. Forgetting is often not very smart. In fact, remembering may be a form of protection. Let’s say you know someone who is abusive. You can forgive them for having hurt you in the past, but if you truly forget how they made you feel, you could end up going back and risking the same thing happening again. Does that make sense?

Rockstar24777 · August 5, 2021, 2:37am

Makes 100% to me, I’ve gone back before and it’s a nightmare. Thanks for posting

Blondie1x · August 5, 2021, 7:04am

Hi @Kathryn. This is a really good way to look at it. Thank you for taking the time to reply. I’m still, in one way or another, dealing with this. And I’m at the stage now where I think I actually might have to go and talk to a therapist about it as it still is affecting my marriage. I have to say though. Being sober whilst working all of these things out is a blessing. I’m no longer willing to continually poison and numb myself as a way to deal with the “elephant in the room”. You have given me food for thought and I thank you