I 100% needed this one today. Well said. Thank you. 🩷
This is a great one! 
Right, the way I look at it is this… The only way forgiveness is ever on the table is when it is asked for. “Please forgive me…”
If someone has done me a dirty and not asked for forgivness then I definitely dont need to work on forgiving them. Its much more important for me to work on detachment.
Now in the meme I posted, I too was one of those parents that drug my child through 12 years of my active addiction. I sure do love that she can see this disease through a compassionate lens, and she doesnt look at me like the monster that I felt I was when I came into recovery. Everyday I did the best I could for my kid and on alot of days my best was really shitty. I am grateful we are alive and I am grateful that God willing she will be giving me my 5 year cake in Dec.
Life is a journey, we are all learning as we go along.
Hey @Its_me_Stella . I am sure that your best, even during active addiction, was adequately loving and grounded for your kid.
I am talking about emotional cruelty, physical harm, negligence and deliberate manipulation. In my case it is the result of narcissistic mother and emotionally avoidant father combined, which then turned into alcoholic narcissist mother and absent father, and how that damages.
deliberate cruelty and neglect and manipulation and harm, does not ever need forgiving. I like what you said about asking forgiveness though, that’s a really simple point but highlights that they have to be open and humble to acknowledge wrongdoing in the first place.
Unless, of course, it’s gaslighting and pretend.
Love to you. Can’t wait to see your five years 
Love you too. I am grateful that you are not a child stuck in that situation anymore. 
This is basically what I’m working on since I became sober. To go from having walls to having boundaries. It’s why I call my journey one of Discovery because I never learned this.
