Mental health memes and discussion (Part 3)

TrustyBird · December 28, 2024, 4:25am

Hey Rob you seem like a pretty lovable fellow. Can you reach out and ask how she felt the date went? Just be honest and direct. You don’t even have to tell her how you felt. A simple “how do you think our date went? Would you like to see me again sometime?” may put your mind at ease.
Apologies if you’ve already done this.
I think in this era of ghosting and no double text dumb rules direct honesty might make you stand out. Hang in there man.

Mno · December 28, 2024, 9:43am

Tragicfarinelli · December 28, 2024, 9:46am

And then passing on generational healing rather than trauma.

SoberSassy · December 28, 2024, 2:03pm

Rockstar24777 · December 28, 2024, 2:46pm

Thank you @Gala, @TrustyBird and @JazzyS I appreciate you all. I feel a lot better this morning after getting a good nights sleep. Yes it’s pretty shitty when people act like that, it shows they lack courage and integrity. Although it sucks and I think @Mno would agree, I have to ask myself what is it triggering in ME that causes me to feel so ashamed and hurt??? The answer is residual trauma from my childhood that still lingers there and the little kid who felt he was never good enough because he was told he wasn’t and would be left alone for hours and sometimes days by himself. Trauma runs deep and manifests in so many different ways.

I am aware, I am ok and I am letting it go. Thank you for all of your support, love you guys.

Mno · December 28, 2024, 3:26pm

We all know it says nothing about you Rob. And while we’re being honest here, I’ve ghosted dates. In a twisted way it’s being afraid of rejection, of wanting to please (yes really), of being very scared that what I wished for actually came true, of being so afraid of conflict that I rather just disappeared without a trace. Yes it’s cowardice. I know where it comes from now. I’m working on it.