Milele’s road to the recovery in SLAA

Hey all ya’ll sober fellows! It’s been on my mind for some time to make my own personal thread about my recovery journey. I know that there’s a private journaling option on the app, but I decided I’ll try the public forum, because it just might bring awareness and help! :heart:‍:adhesive_bandage::hugs:

Now, I cannot promise I’ll write everyday, but I’ll do my best to check in here. :crossed_fingers:t3:

I’ve been working with SLAA which is Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, and does the 12 step program like in AA. I started April 26th, and it’s what they call a H.O.W. program, and for the first 37 days I work with my sponsor everyday. Sounds intense? It seemed that way at first to me as well, but as time has gone by, I can say that it’s been very good! And yea, HOW stands for Honesty, Openness, and Willingness.

The first 7 days were about identification, how to I define myself as a sex and love addict. Then the next 30 days I work steps 1-3 sort of in a bulk. Just today, I started working on step 3. Like I said earlier, it’s similar to AA, obviously it’s adapted to the SLAA context.

Anyhow, that’s the technicalities of it. What about what’s going on the inside? Well, let me tell you: so far it has been intense but good. I’ve had to dig deep into my memory archives and go through my sexual history. I can honestly say that working on some of the questions that I do everyday have been triggering. The memories trigger emotions and all kinds of stuff, but those triggering moments have also passed, and I’ve discussed them with my sponsor. And I have a very good sponsor. She knows how to guide me, but also she doesn’t let me off too easy. She encourages and asked the right questions. I’ve been blessed with that.

But since I’m being honest, I think that I can honestly say, that not a day has passed when I’ve thought, eff this, I’m gonna quit the program. But those moments has passed as well. Somehow, I’ve managed to push through. And then I’ve felt good, because I did it.

So here I am, Milele, a sex and love addict. From PMO, 157 days free.

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@Milele thank you for started this thread. I think I will be helped through it. 13 days clean of PMO

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Well done on 13 days! Yay! :hugs: You got this!

I really do hope this thread will not just help me, but others as well! Keep going!

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Thank you for sharing your journey of recovery Mielle. :heart:

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Thank you Stella! :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: Much love :heart:

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So grateful to learn more about Sex and Love Addiction through your journey … and how to apply the Steps. :pray:.

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So proud of you my friend :heart:

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Thank you my friend! :hugs::heart:

@Milele, by posting openly it would seem you are supporting the HOW of your program, right?? I am so glad the tried and true steps of AA can be modified for a myriad of addictions. I applaud your courage!

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Awww gee thank you! :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: You know, I didn’t even think of that HOW part in this!

Oh yes, the 12 steps are definitely adaptable!

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What is HOW?

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Very good question, thank you for asking! So HOW is for Honesty, Openness and Willingness. I actually found a link to it, that answers that question!

https://www.slaauk.org/useful-resources/slaa-how-documents/what-is-slaa-how/

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Thanks !! This is really helpful!

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Ok, good! I’m glad. I mean that link would then lead to the actual slaa uk page anyway!

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That’s a great share Milele and it been a joy to watch you grow as a person here
I’m really proud of you for your honesty and openness my friend

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Awww gee Conor! Are you trying to make a grown woman cry? :rofl:

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thank you for sharing your jorney Milele, soooo proud of you amiga!!!

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Gracias dear friend! :hugs::heart:

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Great share, thanks @Milele and great to know you :grinning:

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Thank you Darren! :pray:t3: