My friends are angry

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My closest friends have learned in the last 24 hours that I have been drinking daily for the past 9 months. They all voiced their support. They all helped me make the next steps. They are confused, sad, and angry.

We all went through a lot a little over a year ago when I told them I was close to suicide. They knew I had anxiety and depression. They all rallied to my side and helped me through that. And then now there’s this. It’s bad enough to betray myself, but then to take advantage of them and betray them too…

I am going to stay sober. I am going to move through this. I am just worried that, after so much lying in the last 9 months, they won’t be able to trust me again. And I don’t blame them.

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You need to worry about getting yourself better first and foremost. Your friends if theyvare true friends will be there for you.

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Dane is right, you are going to have to be extremely selfish in your recovery. Yes your friends sound phenomenal and supportive, but you can’t think about them right now, only yourself and what’s best for you.

But… Do accept any support they might give you, just know when to draw the line.

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Sounds like you have an awesome support group in your corner. Use that to your advantage, but I agree that you need to do this for yourself and no one else. Sometimes I feel bad going to meetings with my hubby and daughter at home. But it’s only an hour and damnit, I need those rooms bad.

Trust will come back with time and actions. I know from personal experience. Words only go so far.

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Maybe you could phone AA get to meet get support the people there have been were you are now and can help ,doing it for you , your friends supporting you is good but it wont keep you sober this is my experience Hozomeen give it a try you be safe everyone have a good day

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One thing a older guy with 25 yrs in a aa meeting said sunk in with me. The biggest one to be honest with is yourself, easy to bullshit everyone else but you!!!:thinking: Guess makes sense. Get back on the horse and try again!! Hang in there everyone pulling for you

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Thank you Dane. I know that’s the truth.

Thank you to everyone’s comments. I have contacted a friend who is a sponsor in aa and I’ve started working with her. May go to a meeting soon–I know just being on this forum reading people’s experiences have helped so I’m sure that will too.

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