Ive tried for so long, im sick of myself and what ive become. On the outside im the same, on the inside im crumbling. This is the final straw. I will beat my porn addiction
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@DungeonMaster is a good man who can give good advice. I’m tagging him into this thread so will see it.
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Freedom is possible! You’ve come to a good place. There are a bunch of us on here who struggle with this, and we are happy to help you break free from this addiction. Be sure to read some of the threads related to porn addiction, as well as some of the others. You’ll find that all addictions have a commonality. Welcome to the forum!
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Thanks, Derek! I’ll second what @TheTwilightRunner DJ was saying. Stay with us here. Read the threads, talk with us. Learn from us. I’d encourage you to write out your full story and post it so we can help you out.
Also, I always counsel people to not claim the addiction. This is not your addiction. It’s an addiction that has hold of you. You will break free, with hard work, lots of tears, and a host of help on this side of the veil and beyond.
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Welcome @Sami_Baloch, you are not alone. I could hardly look myself in the mirror when I walked through these virtual doors but I found hope and healing. Day by day I’m working on myself and today I’m six months sober. Keep coming back.
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That’s awesome, Mike! I’m 5 days away from 2 months sober, going on 6 months!
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I agree drastic measures should be taken to get sober but I also know plenty of guys that suffered from this addiction before the age of the internet. Maybe these things will help someone dry out in the early days of sobriety but I’m a big believer in self examination via one program or another to attain lasting sobriety. That’s been the case for me anyway.
If I’m dry and not sober (as I was many times in my teens and twenties) the slightest trigger can send me over the edge and I won’t even need something that would be considered porn. The world is loaded with promiscuity. Much as an alcoholic would have a hard time navigating the world without ever driving by a liquor store or a billboard for booze, ultimately we have to get to the bottom of what drives us to use our DOC.
Didn’t intend to get preachy, sorry if it comes off that way.
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Yeah, good analogy with having a tap into your house. I hadn’t thought about it in that way.
Have to agree here. I tried blocks on the internet. It worked for a long time, to the point where I actually thought I was past the addiction. Turns out that was a lie. The addiction was just dormant.
In the past couple years I’ve actually begun battling the addiction a different way. I’ve done the self-reflection thing. Evaluated what is going on with me and why I use. It has proven much more successful in attaining not just lasting sobriety, but meaningful sobriety.
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Hello there. Good advices to apply, But I need to know which app can prevent me from viewing porn on my android device at least for a period of time. I tried Qustudio by given advices but it simply did not work. I cannot change the phone for now because I need my android for get the stuff done which are important to me… thank you.
There is no app or program in the world that can stop a determined porn user from finding and consuming. They are only meant to be barriers while you figure out your deeper problems.
That being said, you could try k9. Not sure if they have a mobile version yet or not.
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It is okey, my last strike was seven days. You are right. I can do when I am determined to fight back and I cant When I am determined to consume.
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I’d listen to @MikeSeekingHope. He always counsels that inward reflection is the best remedy to this addiction. Finding the root of your abuse and tackling that. Realize that you have a negative pattern of self-abuse that is linked to your addiction.
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It is the truth. Tackling this addiction with the perspective that you say is really needed. So no excuses!
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Yes you are right it might be better without these devices. I dont know maybe I need to control myself through some days instead of using an app that blocks any content. Thank you so much.
Yes, it seems that we gotta get the excuses away of our mind. By this way, things will start to go better…
I’m not convinced that cutting technology from our lives is a good solution to the problem. It doesn’t address the underlying problem. Also, technological dunces become seriously hampered in their abilities to get around in our world. Scientific discovery is logarithmic. Soon people will struggle to keep up with technology. It won’t be humans creating the tech, it will be computers and AI’s.
You may think I’m a little crazy and apocalyptic, but I’m right.
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I hear you. Thanks for your input. There are many similarities between alcoholism and sex addiction. I think removing access is a great temporary solution.
I know a lot of people in recovery from porn addiction that have tried all kinds of blocks and everyone one of them have found ways around them when they wanted to. Using blocks will only work as long as you use the other tools you have to stay sober and self discovery is the first tool to have. What’s going on with ME that makes ME to want to do this then bring able to come to terms with that will help you to stay sober.@Sami_Baloch just remember that you can stay sober, you’ve done it before.
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I can really relate and resonate with this topic. I’ve struggled for years with this addiction and I still do currently. Also can empathize with how you’re feeling. Being sick and tired. I’m too the feelings of humiliation and degradation that’s what makes me feel crummy inside. The aftermath of auto eroticism and the guilt, shame, remorse, regret, and pain that follows right after it.
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