My Porn Addiction


#1

Ive tried for so long, im sick of myself and what ive become. On the outside im the same, on the inside im crumbling. This is the final straw. I will beat my porn addiction


#2

@rmgrimmer is a good man who can give good advice. I’m tagging him into this thread so will see it.


#3

Freedom is possible! You’ve come to a good place. There are a bunch of us on here who struggle with this, and we are happy to help you break free from this addiction. Be sure to read some of the threads related to porn addiction, as well as some of the others. You’ll find that all addictions have a commonality. Welcome to the forum!


#4

Thanks, Derek! I’ll second what @TheTwilightRunner DJ was saying. Stay with us here. Read the threads, talk with us. Learn from us. I’d encourage you to write out your full story and post it so we can help you out.

Also, I always counsel people to not claim the addiction. This is not your addiction. It’s an addiction that has hold of you. You will break free, with hard work, lots of tears, and a host of help on this side of the veil and beyond.


#5

Welcome @Sami_Baloch, you are not alone. I could hardly look myself in the mirror when I walked through these virtual doors but I found hope and healing. Day by day I’m working on myself and today I’m six months sober. Keep coming back.


#6

That’s awesome, Mike! I’m 5 days away from 2 months sober, going on 6 months!


#7

As I’ve said on another thread, if you can’t quit, then

  1. Get a dumb phone, so you can’t surf on your phone
  2. Get rid of the Internet at home (i doubt many people surf porn at Internet cafes)
  3. Block porn via your isp or something like opendns (if you must have Internet for work) using a randomised password and then throw the password away. Link your blocking account to a temporary email address and throw the password away for that so you can’t reset the password.
  4. Get rid of any computers and tablets. You can keep standard kindles and games consoles that can’t surf, but no other stuff that can access the net and view porn.

Might seem a bit drastic, but if you’ve tried everything and it’s destroying your life then you need to be drastic.

Plus, life was better before all this tech everywhere.


#8

I agree drastic measures should be taken to get sober but I also know plenty of guys that suffered from this addiction before the age of the internet. Maybe these things will help someone dry out in the early days of sobriety but I’m a big believer in self examination via one program or another to attain lasting sobriety. That’s been the case for me anyway.

If I’m dry and not sober (as I was many times in my teens and twenties) the slightest trigger can send me over the edge and I won’t even need something that would be considered porn. The world is loaded with promiscuity. Much as an alcoholic would have a hard time navigating the world without ever driving by a liquor store or a billboard for booze, ultimately we have to get to the bottom of what drives us to use our DOC.

Didn’t intend to get preachy, sorry if it comes off that way.


#9

Yeah, good points and you’re right. It’s just that porn is so much more available and easily accessible now. It’s no longer buy a magazine or a film (which takes more doing), it’s just click a mouse.

Also, if you do have a pile of magazines, you can throw them out. Hard to do that with the Internet.

I guess the drinking equivalent would be having a tap into your house which would pour any alcohol you desired at will for free and as much as you wanted. That would be hard to resist for most people in the early days of sobriety.

Anyways, good luck and yes, therapy of some sort would help to understand the appeal and deal with the root cause.


#10

Yeah, good analogy with having a tap into your house. I hadn’t thought about it in that way.


#11

Have to agree here. I tried blocks on the internet. It worked for a long time, to the point where I actually thought I was past the addiction. Turns out that was a lie. The addiction was just dormant.

In the past couple years I’ve actually begun battling the addiction a different way. I’ve done the self-reflection thing. Evaluated what is going on with me and why I use. It has proven much more successful in attaining not just lasting sobriety, but meaningful sobriety.


#12

Hello there. Good advices to apply, But I need to know which app can prevent me from viewing porn on my android device at least for a period of time. I tried Qustudio by given advices but it simply did not work. I cannot change the phone for now because I need my android for get the stuff done which are important to me… thank you.


#13

There is no app or program in the world that can stop a determined porn user from finding and consuming. They are only meant to be barriers while you figure out your deeper problems.

That being said, you could try k9. Not sure if they have a mobile version yet or not.


#14

It is okey, my last strike was seven days. You are right. I can do when I am determined to fight back and I cant When I am determined to consume.


#15

I’d listen to @MikeSeekingHope. He always counsels that inward reflection is the best remedy to this addiction. Finding the root of your abuse and tackling that. Realize that you have a negative pattern of self-abuse that is linked to your addiction.


#16

What is it that you “need” your phone for?

Get a phone or device that does just that. Do you need colour? Do you need images? Do you need sound? Do you need unlimited data? Do you need as big a screen?

I’m managing on a phone that does just calls and just text messages. I’m looking at my options for the absolute minimum I need above that.

I think very few of us “need” to have a device that does everything a smart phone does. You know you can get phones that can do email and calls and text. You can access the web using a kindle. It’s black and white and slow and doesn’t have video. Doesn’t sound like it would do it for me to look at porn over that.

And honestly, if porn is destroying your life then you should not have access to the Internet, no matter how much you “need” it.

We all managed to live lives only twenty years ago without mobiles or the Internet and honestly, i think it was better.


#17

It is the truth. Tackling this addiction with the perspective that you say is really needed. So no excuses!


#18

Yes you are right it might be better without these devices. I dont know maybe I need to control myself through some days instead of using an app that blocks any content. Thank you so much.


#19

Its a tough addiction to break. Do whatever you need to. I am.


#20

Yes, it seems that we gotta get the excuses away of our mind. By this way, things will start to go better…