My Story - Russell

Good Morning Everyone!

This is my first day here. I thought I would tell my story. I’m not ashamed to share, it gives me strenght.

I drank for over 40 years. My parents were extreme alchoholics. That had a huge negative impact on the entire family.

I had tried to quit drinking “cold turkey” for the eight day prior to Christmas Eve as a gift to my family. I didn’t know that it could be dangerous to do that without medical assistance. I started going through severe withdrawl symptoms and on Christmas Eve I decided to buy alchohol to have one drink to sooth them so that I could be more relaxed and be better company. I don’t think I finished my first drink. I was told that I became angry and started yelling at my wife. I don’t know why I was angry or why I was yelling. I don’t remember much at all. She had me arrested and I spent the night in jail. I’ve never even had a speeding ticket before that. I was released in the afternoon on Christmas Day with no where to go and only the clothes on my back. I was restrained legally from contacting my wife. I could not go home and had no where to go. It’s amazing how quickly your life can change from having everything you need to having nothing. I found a motel room and slept for the rest of the day. I woke up with overwhelming guilt and remorse. I thought I lost everyone and everything dear to me. I called my son. He and his wife brought me some clothes and some essentials.

I sat in the motel room thinking my life was over and feeling worthless. I hit rock bottom with no idea what to do. My higher power stepped in and said it’s time to go to rehab. I enrolled myself in detox and found an outstanding rehabilitation program. That was my higher power guiding me. At first there were no available openings, but my higher power did its work and suddenly there were. Sound unlikely? I thought so too.

I went through detox without much problems. Started rehab at a great program in Tennessee. I worked hard every day to learn as much as I could. I could feel my higher power giving me inner strenght and resolve. It was if my higher power took my addiction away from me. I quit achohol and cigarettes at the same time without cravings or thought of relapse. The staff as impressed by my commitment and inner strenght (so was I). My wife and kids encouraged me every day with their love and emotional support. I thank my family, the staff, and my higher power for my recovery.

I saved enough money by not smoking and drinking to afford things I couldn’t comfortably before. I bought my wife her first new car, she loves it (and me too)! I took her new Blazer in to have luggage racks installed. That took two hours. While waiting I looked around the showroom and bought a Corvette. My wife and I drive around with the top down to nearby attractions or just winding country roads all the time now. We enjoy our time together exploring places we have overlooked far too long. Thank you to all who helped me through a difficult time especially my higher power.

I’m 93 (now 103 as of this edit) days sober, with no cravings and no relapses. I find that this application, Sober Time, is a great help!

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Welcome Russell! Your dark night of the soul sounds very familiar, particularly the bit where your self-powered plan went off the rails. And as a reminder to myself and a warning to others, when you do get put into booking overnight, they do a cavity search and full strip search on you. From that (unfortunately, repeated) humiliation, I began to learn something about true humility.

Physical detox and some education on alcoholism and its treatment that you got in rehab is a terrific start! I think you probably understand that daily sobriety is contingent on a daily plan of recovery. There are many examples of how people here on Talking Sober have done that, so keep an open mind.

One word of caution for you - it comes from a friend of mine describing his experience with AA. And it kinda sounds apt in the context of buying shiny expensive things early in sobriety. “Recovery is not the next high”. Old Tom was saying that in sobriety, he was still looking for a dopamine hit by attending meetings and getting emotional reinforcement there and he recognized it when he would make a big sale and commission (he was a realtor) that would give him the same ecstatic feeling. What I have come to value in my sobriety is the calm, is the deep knowing that everything is going to be okay, is the ability to find wonder and bliss in ordinary daily interactions with people and nature.

Blessings :pray: on your house as you begin your beautiful sober life.

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Glad you’re here Russell!

Thanks for sharing your story, and congrats on your 93 days of sobriety! :smiling_face_with_sunglasses::call_me_hand:

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Thank you for your reply. Didn’t have to have the search thankfully. For me, it’s not the shiny things. It is the peace of mind, clarity of thought, the empathy I’ve gained, and the love and support I’ve received from friends and family. The pink cloud has come and gone. I made a commitment to change my life. When I started rehab I was worried that life wouldn’t be fun anymore. I thought that to myself when my son dropped me off at rehab. I took rehab seriously and came to realize a number of things about myself and my interaction with others. I’ve made some big changes that everyone sees. Now days I don’t think about my addiction at all unless the subject comes up. I don’t think about drinking or smoking cigarettes. I dont think about not drinking or smoking either. Life is amazing an fun without all the material thinks. The greatest achievement is as you say - peace, inner strenght, achievement, and the appreciation of others. I wish everyone the best! You are stronger than you think!

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Thank you for sharing and welcome to TS! :heart::heart::heart:

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Thank you for your reply.

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You are very kind. Thank you!