Ive been following and reading yall for the past few weeks and finally decided to become a member. I have not had a drink in 21 days and I have found ways to curb the craving. However, this is what I noticed. OMG do I EAT. All I wanna do is eat, especially sweets (and Im not a sweets person) so I have put on weight. Normal, Ive heard, so Im focusing on sobriety before I start to worry about dropping the weight. Also, insomnia…getting to sleep is DIFFICULT. And finally, as of yesterday my anxiety was THROUGH THE ROOF. Talk to me. Tell me Im not losing it, and that this shall pass!!!
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Your doing just fine, keep up the good work, sleeping difficulties is pretty normal, I take restivat to help me get some good rest, don’t worry about the weight, get some exercise if it gets to you, maybe just a short stroll everyday, I’m positive you’ll feel just as beautiful being the real you, sober!
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Thank you. Its the anxiety that worries me the most. But I do have doctors and therapists and I know theyll be there along the way.
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10 days straight after 16 years:pray:t2:
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Welcome here and congrats on being sober for 3 weeks Rae! It’s the best thing you can do for yourself. Please keep going. I notice you say you eat quite a lot of sweets at the moment. Sugar is a friend of anxiety.In a bad way. If you google around a little bit you’ll fond a lot about the correlation between the two. So maybe look to some alternatives to eating the stuff. Otherwise I’m just happy you decided to become sober. And join us all on the site too. Together we’re strong Rae. Dong this together helps a lot.
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I will definitely look into that. Thank you @Mno I know its a marathon, not a race and look forward to everyone on here.
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That is good to hear, day by day ok, and, don’t forget to just breath, you’re on your way, I’m open all ears when you need a vent!
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Yes, it shall pass and you are not loosing it. Try a meditate app or breathing exercize when you have anxiety, it really helps. The “insight timer” is a good one, but there are more of them in the app store.
A sweeth tooth is normal. De body misses the empty calories of the alcohol and crave them. So that’s why you ate them. Leave it for a while. For now it’s better then drinking isn’t it? When you have more sober days and your body is more balanced you can work on that too.
Congratulations with your sober days and welcome on this app, we’re here for you! 
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Welcome Rachel!
Great work, 21 days!! It will pass, and with sobriety you will find that other things begin to fall into place. Not all at once, and maybe not as we anticipate, but a sense of order begins to form from the chaos.
We are glad you are here!
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Hey! You’re not losing it. And you’re doing great lady❤️
I was never a sweets person, until I quit drinking! It took me a solid year off drugs and alcohol to quit smoking. It took then another six months to start addressing my sugar habit. It all happens with time. My mom died during this time, and I have to say the biggest factor for me through all of this was practicing loving myself. That sounds so fucking cliche and new agey…I know this…that’s not lost on me. But man is it real. For so long I drove myself crazy self medicating my anxiety, judging myself harshly for what I ate and how I looked and if I was good enough etc. sobriety was the start of a very long journey in not being at war with myself all the time. Eat sugar…for now. Notice the thought patterns that crop up around “what you should be doing” how you “should be eating” what you “should look like” and kindly remind yourself that…you are doing really well…you love yourself…it’ll be ok.
So much of my need to escape through drugs and alcohol etc was not to escape fro life itself but rather just to get away from my brains negative thought patterns ABOUT what was happening in my life. When the negative thought patterns were interrupted and replaced with caring ones, the compulsion to use,drink, eat started to subside.
You’re doing awesome.
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Wow, if i could like this more than once I would. Thank you so much, i will come back and look at this when things get tough. This really touched me!
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Oh hood I’m glad😊 how are things going today?
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You’re doing great to get so far, many of us will tick all those boxes, I just eat, it’s gotta be better than alcohol. I through in the odd apple or banana. And try and do some exercise for the sleep, even just walking. I’m pretty sure I’ll still be awake at 2am but it gets you through the day. Well done again.
Heyyyyy! Today was good. We went for lunch and saw our regualr bartender and told her we weren’t drinking. She was suprised and happy all at the same time. Said she wished she could stop too. Started asking questions like “what made us decide to stop” etc. We also will have an occasional NA beer at home on the weekend if we bar b que. Ive read a lot about them in the forums and they are not a trigger at all for me. I just like the taste… Not really chasing the buzz. No anxiety today… However… Wide awake!
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Great work, keep it up…