Hi everyone! Recently turned 32. I am pretty new to this and didn’t start responding to posts until last night. I have been really struggling and have been unsure about sharing my story. I read someone’s story last night and started thinking maybe it will make me feel better in some way to just go ahead and share…so here goes nothing. (I’ll try my best to not make this a novel so I apologize in advance).
I grew up in a Christian home…church every Sunday morning, every Sunday night, youth group after. Church every Wednesday night. Church camp every summer. I didnt have any say in the matter. It was “our house our rules”. I started drinking toward the end of high school amongst other things. At one point I asked my parents for help and guidance…I packed up over night and moved out the next day (age 18)…into the home of my bad influence of a bf.
6 mths later found out the bf was cheating…moved in with my gma. I graduated high school early and was accepted to the nursing program for college. After I made it through all the stuff for clearance, I started hiding bottles of liquor in my closet. I’d drink and study on repeat. I dated an alcoholic/abusive police officer from about 19 to 21. He got me in an even deeper hole. I dumped him when I ended up with 2 black eyes one night. (Shortly after, I passed my boards and officially became an RN). Daily drinking continued and worsened. I attempted to date and it wasnt working out. I got my first nursing job (I enough control to not risk my Licensure drinking before or during work). I became charge nurse. Soon after that, I became suicidal and was placed in a psych facility…my 3rd time in one. Not to mention I have been in ICU r/t suicide a time or 2. I finally ended up engaged to a wonderful man at some point…we were together about 3 yrs. I’d say at that point in my life I still liked to drink and get rowdy…but nothing like my life has been now. I called off a fully planned wedding about 6 yrs ago now. That’s when the worst started.
I started drinking everyday again. Very heavily. I had to have it. It had to be liquor. I craved it. Everyone in god knows how far of a radius around me of liquor stores knows my name and keeps a box of what they know I like behind the counter. At some point I quit using mixers and just kept the bottle next to me. Itd be the first thing I’d grab as I walked in the door. I quit getting the expensive stuff I like and started getting the biggest bottle of Grey Goose and Sailor Jerry Rum. I could finish the biggest bottle of each in 1 to 3 days on my own and not get a buzz, not have a hangover, and would take shots as soon as I woke if I wasnt working. I was with my most recent bf for 5 yrs. I still have no clue why, but he walked out on me with only the clothes on his back and one of the dogs about 9+ mths ago now. He was drinking worse than I was amongst other things. I wound up tackled and arrested by 3 officers in my own living room in front of one of my best friends…and handcuffed to a bed in the ER bc I was suicidal recently. I lost a job bc I cared more about staying home to drink…so I called in everyday till I was fired. I would sit on the couch for weeks at a time and not shower. On top of the drinking I have chronic health issues…i recently was in the ER 3x in a 2.5wk period. I found out my liver enzymes were terribly elevated and I had fatty liver. So what did I do? …I went home and upped my drinking game. I became very sick…and ended up just drinking and sleeping in the bathroom next to the toilet bc I was puking so much. I decided at midnight i was “done drinking”.
I have tried 2x before to quit and never made it past day 3. I struggle with admitting that I am an alcoholic. But there is no denying it. I am an alcoholic…and I am bawling my eyes out just allowing myself to even type that out. I set my goal for 7 days this time. The first 2wks were PURE HELL! I was constantly vomiting for 8 or 9 days. I had shakes, sweats, paranoia, hallucinations. When I started trying to eat I felt so sick I couldn’t handle it and started forcing myself to vomit. A doc called in a prescription for withdrawal symptom control. …At midnight tonight I will be completing day #37 and beginning #38. My true friends have been very supportive and encouraging. I have attended parties with groups of people that dont drink just to hang out with me. I have found that I do the WORST when I am alone. I just want to grab the bottle. And yes, I keep it where I can reach it bc I feel that if I can keep it there and not grab it…i am stronger than I thought I was! I have lost a lot of “friends” through all of this…ppl that dont believe I can do it, people that have laughed and said I would fail, and ppl that just flat out have told me I am a liar and I am still drinking and just telling ppl that I am not.
I am trying to focus on my positives to remind myself this is a GOOD THING FOR ME…A BLESSING!!! I just started a new job that I am really liking. I have started dating someone new. I have become closer to already close friends. I have been an RN for a little over 10 yrs now…I just found out I have been accepted to an RN to MSN-FNP (Family Nurse Practitioner) Program. I have lost 15lbs. However…my emotions have been a rollercoaster. I struggle with depression already, and quitting just makes it worse. I cry…A LOT. I am trying to get out and walk at least an hour when I can to clear my head. I almost gave in to the vodka last night but didnt. And tonight…well, tonight…the guy that most recently walked out on me just had to call…and my stupid ass had to answer. Now I am struggling again and I hate myself so much for it. I wish that it wasnt this hard.
I am happy to have found this app. It really is helping to keep me on a good path. Also, if you are the journaling type I would suggest downloading the app called 365Gratitude. It gives you a quote or a story and a mini writing assignment related to the post. You can log your mood and everyday list 3 things you are grateful for. …it has a few other neat options as well. It also has a “community” area somewhat like this chat runs.
But anyway. I apologize for making this post so long. But please…everyone keep posting! Good luck to all on your journey. You are not and will never be alone.