Closing this topic now because I think all opinions on this have been aired. Of course we are all entitled to our opinions and to ask others for them - but this topic has been covered extensively in the past and can be found by using the search bar 
so I’d suggest if anyone wants to read further they do that, rather than going over what for some people is a sensitive and difficult topic.
Another reminder of the forum rules for future reference.
And to repeat @Eke point above…