Hi everyone. Just found this site legit 5 minutes ago. I’ve never done any type of support groups or anything. I’m sorry if I’m doing this post in the wrong area or anything. I’m just kinda winging it.
My names Megan. I’m 24 years old and a married mother of one. I’ve been sober for about 3 years now I live a pretty isolated lifestyle with just my family of 3 and one close friend. Lately I find that I feel myself slipping mentally and it’s tough for anyone in my small circle to relate
I’ve gotten sober and stayed that way on my own, mainly for my child . Some days are just tougher than others and nobody in my life understands that.
I was hoping to find a pen pal on here to write emails to. Just talk regularly and check in, vent to, listen to their story, and so on. I feel like having a friend, even an online distant one would be a major help. If anyone’s interested let me know. Thanks
This community is basically just that you will have someone reply almost immediately! And there is the option of direct message if you dont want it all on a public thread
Welcome to the community Megan. Thats some impressive sober time.
Bit off topic but may assist you and others that are new and read this.
I seen you mentioned finding the “site” 5 mins ago.
If your are on a Pc or browser. Its worth noting that this site also intergrates well with an app called “Sober time” on the app stores.
See pic below. Its how i and many other people found this community. Initially i downloaded the app for the sober day counter function and stumbled upon the community through the app.
If you are already doing that then great. Just mentioning because i also didnt initially know this works through a web browser seperate to the app lol. Some of us are probably accessing from the other method and unaware of the cross over.
Welcome! You can for aire find plenty of people on here, some can be sober acquaintances, but keep putting in the time and effort and some will blossom into true friends.
How did you get sober by yourself? I used this forum, and AA to get sober. I have two kids, they were around 6 and 10 when I finally quit drinking, I wish I could have got sober for them, but in the end, I had to get sick and tired of myself being so sick and tired all the time.
Wow that’s so amazing to hear. I’m sure I would have had similar struggles but what really helped me was getting pregnant. Wasn’t part of my plans but I knew for the sake of the baby I couldn’t risk doing anything so I stopped cold turkey. After having the baby there were a few hiccups but only minor. It’s only recently that I’ve been really fighting mentally again
I quit while pregnant and breastfeeding too. So for a total of about 5 years I didn’t drink. But after they were no longer physically taking something from my body I sank back into addiction. The time I didn’t drink just foolishly convinced me I didn’t have a problem. And the whole “mommy juice” propaganda just helped me along, drinking after they they slept, after they had gone to nursery school, the amounts getting more and more. It is shocking to me now how I could do it. That I could be so irresponsible and neglectful.
I feel like that’s the mindset I’m getting into now maybe. Now that my little one is a bit bigger not breastfeeding I feel more urges than I used to. I definitely relate and don’t think u r a bad person at all. Just someone who has had a rough time
Some books I personally enjoyed were Annie Grace’s This Naked Mind, and Ann Dowsett Johnston’s Drink. This Naked Mind has a lot of the process of addiction, and how to get out of it, Drink is a memoir, but also has a lot of insights into society’s role, especially from the female perspective. They both made me feel more understood and determined.
Welcome! I’m a mum too (almost 50 with a 10 year old though)
To add to books, highly recommend Quit Like a Woman. I got the audiobook and loved it. I still might pick up the book to re-read and highlight. Such good nuggets of wisdom and relatable info
you will have someone reply almost immediately! And there is the option of direct message if you dont want it all on a public thread 
