i feel cravings dwindling and more in control than ever! the only tough aspect that is difficult to move past is the fact that i can sense my personality changing. I have little patience, i am less motivated to be outgoing, and i am less of a people person. i feel like i was much more “chill” and people oriented while i was drinking. now i struggle to find interest in my social encounters. is it common to experience personality changes in sobriety? its starting to worry me. i just feel different, you know?
Also, a lot of us used alcohol to be social because naturally we were not. We dont tolerate bullshit like we used to. It doesn’t make you a bad person. You’re learning about yourself.
thank you guys. i do tend to dwell and feel like i am naturally a bad/cold person. its really hard for me to re adjust… what helped you guys? @Melrm and @Oliverjava
Big time. I miss my drunken interactions, I’ve started to become more of a recluse, but I’ve also been very in touch with myself…it’s easy going through life only half awake…but is that the life you want to live?
hi @jaimelee I went through a period of extreme boredom after I quit, nothing seemed fun anymore and I felt like there was no point in anything but have rekindled an old interest in reading and found a new one one in meditation - quieter pursuits than what I thought I wanted but they make me feel peace and happiness. Try and just accept that things will be different now you have stopped drinking but it WILL be for the best eventually
Because you’re sober, you’ll gain clarity over time and see people and things for what they really are. I just pay attention to what’s around me. I believe in synchronicity and signs…that they guide us. Keep it simple and let your current life show you who you are. You’re tastes may change, you’ll set boundaries, you’ll learn to like your own company.
mannn this is tough idk. its just a bummer and ibtry not to bring it up/think about it because i hate complaining. bartending isnt fun, family events arent fun, days off arent fun. while i was drinking i still did yoga and ran daily, i do that now for fun still but i just can never imagine replacing the feeling of being a few drinks in. what has kept me from drinking this whole time is my relationships with my husband and my family, as well as my work and school. then i think, well i got straight As and made a ton of money while getting blacked out 4 nights a week. so whats the problem?
You are going to change, but that doesn’t necessarily need to be a bad thing. Thanks for posting this because I’ve felt different as well. I think some small part of me will always miss that loud and social girl that loved to laugh and could out drink everyone. Bla.
thank you so much everyone…it time to answer that tough question @Success. and i think its time to prepare to let that part of myself go…even if i have to quietly grieve a little bit.
If you can have fun wasted you can definitely have fun sober…just break those barriers and link those synapses.
Sometimes you gotta learn how to not give a fuck and act like a jack ass, lol…that’s the difference with alcohol, you have a socially accepted reason why you’re letting loose and having fun. You can harness that neuropathy sober
Take life easy, have fun, and find happiness in EVERYTHING.
Found this thread in the middle of the night (its now 7am) and I just want to thank you all for your posts, since quitting 76 days ago I have begun to see how my life could be without alcohol and I have hope for the first time in a VERY long time! I am coming to some realizations I have been hiding from myself and that is scary but in order to be truly happy we have to be honest with ourselves. One thing I am sure of amidst all the uncertainty in my life today is that happiness cannot be found in the bottom of a wine bottle!! (Please feel free to substitute your poison of choice) Our true personalities deserve to see the light of day
Great post! I can totally relate in my own way. Although I like myself a lot better sober, those around me tend to prefer me drinking. Although outgoing when I need to be, I am extremely content just with my little internal world and sobriety always alienates me in many ways good and bad.
This time around I’ve made it a firm resolve to embrace it and see where it takes me and who’s company it puts me in. Change is good.
I can absolutely relate. I am back after a relapse and really noticed the personality changes.
In active addiction I am more neurotic, anxiety more prevelant, im much more likely to say what people want to hear rather than what i feel. I also have a feeling of dishonesty and discomfort in my own skin.
Even now, very newly sober, I can feel my previous sober self returning. Im more introverted, becoming calmer and actually taking time to think about things.
I also used to have “fun” while drinking. I also at times turned into a complete psychotic bitch. Lol. When my boyfriend and I first got together that’s pretty much all we did and for a while it was"fun". Sure we laughed our assess off. Who knows if whatever is it that we were laughing at was even funny or not. We were hammered. We also had a few arguments. Mostly me being crazy. When we decided to go sober (20 days) for us both, I too became extremely bored and thought to myself " I had way more “fun” when I was drinking". Well the fact is I also had the capability of turning into an asshole, blacking out and not even knowing I was an ass the night before. So I’ll take the boredom over the "fun " any day. Still trying to figure out what to do with my time I’m sure you will too. Good luck and congrats on how far you’ve come !!!
I feel the same way as you, maybe our brains are readjusting to being in full control of situation. We see things as they are which now irritates us somewhat.
